(Closed) Mini rant: FSIL

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

 Your Fi needs to speak to her about her behavior. It’s your ceremony you guys get to choose the readings. Who cares what she thinks. By the way I am an atheist and I’ve done two religious readings one at my brothers wedding, another at a cousins. It was fine! She doesn’t get to dictate such an important part of your ceremony! Let your Fi deal with her, she is out of line.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

 I’m glad you didn’t change it for her.  I think its a good idea for your Fi to call her, I would hope he keeps short and sweet say something like  this is the reading, can you do it if not we need to know so ask someone else, period end of discussion. The ceremony should reflect your views and is about you and your Fi not the reader’s feelings. Again even if she is an atheist I don’t see what the big deal is, if she really felt uncomfortable doing the readings she should bow out gracefully. Good Luck!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I guess I’ll take the other side here and say that as an atheist I wouldn’t want to do a religious reading at a wedding, now matter how close I am to the couple. It wouldn’t match my beliefs so I wouldn’t feel right about it. 

However, it should not take her a week to decide. I’d tell the couple I was honored to be asked but I wouldn’t feel right about it. I wouldn’t take forever to decide.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

 I think also in this case it’s seems to be just as much cultural as religious. I don’t think anyone should do something that they don’t want to, however I don’t see what harm comes from reading something that reflects the couples views because it’s their ceremony. The sister is just being rude regardless of her beliefs.

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