Post # 1
*I didn’t know whether to put this in parenting or photography so the lounge will have to do*
A woman I know is a “fauxtographer”. Up until about a week ago this was just a hobby but she somehow got it into her head that she was… talented and decided to launch a company and create a FB page to look for new clients. Her entire portfolio consists of pictures of her daughter, her daughters friends and her family, though clients wouldn’t really know that. Her work is eqvivilant to that of a kindergartener with access to bad photo editing software so the fact that she’s trying to pass herself off as a “professional” is laughable. This, however, is not why I’m posting this thread.
You know how I mentioned she takes a lot of pictures of her daughter? Well, those pictures would be better suited for playboy. There are pictures of her daughter (who is 18, mind you) laying sprawled out on the floor with hardly any clothes on (basically, only the bits were covered). There are others of her daughter and her daughters friend posing in their barely there bikinis in far to seductive poses for a mother to shoot of her daughter let alone post on her “businesses” FB page. I’m not entirely sure what kind of clientel she’s trying to reach but unless it’s parents who want slutty pictures of their teenage daughters taken, I doubt she’ll be very successful.
She’s asked me on multiple occasions what I think of her work and her FB page. I pretty much always say “It looks great!” with a fake smile because I have no idea what else to say. We’re not really close enough for me to tell her that I think it’s totally ridiculous but I freakin’ wish someone in her family would. She’s putting a lot of time and energy into trying to actually do this and I feel like its wasted if she’s going in this direction. She’s trying to appeal to families and those with kids. No family is going to hire her after seeing those pictures.
Now onto the whole parenting thing. I’m not a parent but I hope to have a daughter some day. It would be a cold day in hell before I even TAKE almost naked pictures of my daughter let alone post them to my PUBLIC facebook page for all the world to see. I know that her daughter is technically an adult but it just seems gross to me.
Post # 3
That is terrible! I wonder if her daughter’s friend’s parents know about these….
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: That does seem super awkward and fairly creepy. Just be thankful you’re not one of her close friends who has more of an obligation to say something!
Ps – I felt like I could actully hear your voice when you wrote, “she somehow got it into her head that she was… talented” and it made me smile, haha.
Post # 5
Could you tell her “Honestly, if you want to get into photography that’s great, but from an outsider’s perspective the context of these photographs is pretty inappropriate.”
If she’s a friend, let her know!
Post # 6
@KatyElle: I think I’ll have to feel her out a bit more. She’s actually a co-worker who I’ve only recently started to really get to know (last few months or so) and I don’t know if she would be offended or not. My friend/co-worker is closer to her than I am. She saw the pictures this weekend too so I think I’ll see what she thinks tomorrow and then feel out the situation. I would like to help point her in the right direction but she also seems to be the kind of person who may take offense to it and I’d rather work not be weird.
@Mars62312: Not really sure. I would imagine the friend is probably the same age as her daughter so “technically” an adult.
@Juliepants: Were you picturing me rolling my eyes when I said “talented”? ‘Cause I totally was! lol
Post # 7
@UpstateCait: I can see not wanting to make it awkward with a co-worker. I think the lack of bookings will speak for themselves haha.
Post # 8
@KatyElle: Agreed. I’m not sure how much longer I can pretend to be impressed by her work. I swear to god, if it gets to the point where I see nipple I’m gonna freak out! lol
Post # 9
Awkward and gross .. I would stick to the plan and feel her out before you say something
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
eeewwww. that is gross.
and I hate people that just start up photography businesses. then we read about how brides were pissed that their pics sucked on the hive!
Post # 11
A girl I went to school with did something similar, exept with babies. She was an art major, and really into edgy and in-your-face art, up until graduation and she couldn’t find anyone to hire her. She did a 180 and started a photography “business” page on Facebook, and it’s all cutesy Anne Geddes style babies in weird positions wearing weird things. One of the pictures has a naked baby sprawled out with a fake sunflower barely covering its baby bits.
Obviously it’s meant to be cutesy and innocent, but the pictures are all just strange and terrible. Some of them have piknik style cheesy quotes too.
Post # 12
@GoldfishPie: ” the pictures are all just strange and terrible”
This gave me the lulz.
Post # 13
That is so awkward. I have a friend of a friend who is also a fauxtographer (and sadly some people have hired him for their weddings!!) but luckily he doesn’t take any weird photos like that. They’re just bad.
What about flagging the photos on facebook as inappropriate? That way they would get removed and maybe she would get the message to at least not take those types of photos.. even if her photography sucks in general.
Post # 14
that does sound totally creepy. i feel like maybe you could make a comment to her on how you would be uncomfortable to post pics of your daughter wearing barely anything for the world to see! and just not comment on the quality if you don’t want to be mean. some people just to be told and then they get it.
Post # 15
That is strange and creepy. I’d try to keep mum and let the ratings and bookings tell her this is not her calling. As a mom, I’d probably also mention that most families are looking for someone to give them a more ‘wholesome’ image of their kids… you know, something to send to grandma…. I think you can say something nice next time she asks without making her mad. :/
Post # 16
Can you maybe say, “you know, I’m not very well versed in photography. It all looks pretty good to me, so I’m not really the person to ask,” and then hope she stops asking you about them?c