(Closed) Mini vent. I’m pretty sure I misread everything she says.

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

some of this stuff doesn’t sound so bad to me, but hey, if you don’t like her, you don’t like her.  has she outright said she thinks she’s a bridesmaid?  i’d nip that in the bud as soon as she does, but otherwise, i wouldn’t bring it up.  i think you are handling the situation very well.  you aren’t being mean, but you are keeping your distance and staying cordial. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I would probably respond with, “Idk…these are all questions that my bridesmaids need to look at to iron out the details”. Then maybe shell take the hint 😉

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

ooo i like Ms Narwhal’s suggestion.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Since you said you didn’t like this girl to begin with, everything she says is probably going to bug you. It sounds like she is trying to start a conversation but I think she is going about it really strangely. Her statements seem pretty akward to me. I wouldn’t worry about telling her she is not a bridesmaid, when you start all of your planning it will be clear who is actually in the bridal party. Just tell her you have not decided on a bridal party yet.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@asscherlover:  personally, i wouldn’t flat out tell her she’s not a bridesmaid unless she says something that indicates she 100% thinks she’s a bridesmaid.  i like ms. narwhal’s dropping of hints that indicate she isn’t one next time she brings up a bridesmaid duty.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’d ask your BMs, then if she keeps asking say “I don’t know, my bridesmaids will figure it out”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

it kinda sounds to me like she is trying to fish around for a bridesmaid invite.  Like if she pesters you about the wedding you might feel you have to include her.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

I’d just ignore her and evade. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@asscherlover:  Yikes! Message/Call her and let her know she needs to take it down. Then calmly explain to her that those duties have already been assigned elsewhere and you would like to keep the details of your wedding private. 

YIKES!

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