(Closed) Mini Vent – input if youd like. :p RE budget.

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Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Actually, I would be annoyed that you want me to drop everything and ask my parents for money.  You’re annoyed that he went out with friends instead of talk to his parents?  My parents mentioned in passing at the begining that they would pay, but we didnt discussed it again.  We had enough money to pay for the wedding so I wasnt worried, but every now and then he wanted me to confirm with my parents if they were going to pay and it would make me mad real fast.  We had enough without help, we’re planning the wedding we want and wasnt cutting anything out, if when the time comes, they help out, then awesome, we would gratefully accept.   If not, it was OUR wedding, why should I ask my parents for their hard earned money to pay for it when we can easily afford it.  I dont like asking for money.

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MeganTacky2247: That part sounds more troubling to me.  Are you going to combine finances once you are married??   If so, your money/his money, its essentially the same thing right? 

Post # 7
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you still have money to save you should be equally saving. We were very fortunate, my parents and my Fiance parents gave us each $5000. Our wedding is looking to be around $19,000 when all said and done. I have money saved up previously that I was able to put towards the wedding. We decided from day one of planning that we would save the same amount. I get to put less in the “wedding account” each week because of my previous amount contributed. You shouldn’t have to carry the entire burden. Remember marriage is about compromize.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s perfectly fine to be annoyed but just remember that it is just a big party. You have to live with your Fiance and in-laws forever. Work out your emotions now and then get back on track and start planning with what you DO have! Then you can start to have some fun instead of stressing. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

my parents have offered up around £2000 between them (divorced) and fi parents have offered to buy the wedding cake. she’s managed to find a cake for around £80. 

i budgeted for my wedding with no help what so ever with these additions i can do a little more, or just spend less. i wouldn’t dream of ever asking any of our parents for there help and if they don’t produce the money the oh well… i’ll deal with it. 

i don’t understand the your money my money thing in marraige or even a serious relationship for that matter but thats just me. 

i honestly believe if you cant reach the $14000 without their help, then your budget should only be $12000 and treat any offering as a bonus not a given 

and the first thing i would be doing is asking fi how he intends to contribute and not his parents 

 

Post # 13
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14660 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@MeganTacky2247: whoa, 3 jobs?!  Where would you find time to go out?  haha.  wow.  Well, if it would help to see some of the money come out of ‘his’ account right now, I would defintely talk to him about that and ask him to pay for things.  My husband and kept separate accounts but have always viewed our money as joined, but to keep my account from dropping to like zero then having him transfer me money (since the mortgage comes from my acct), I’d just write checks to vendors out of his account so he was ‘paying’, but it was still an over all joint effort in the bigger picture.

Post # 15
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Honey bee

Wait, what is he contributing? Why are you paying for everything?

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