(Closed) [Mini-vent] Kind of frustrated by people having huge weddings right now

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Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: City, State

Yep. We’ve slashed our guest list, put in place multiple measures for sanitization and distancing, and people having 150-guest weddings right now may literally make my tiny December wedding impossible because this virus won’t go away. I’m not thrilled with people who haven’t taken any measures because what… covid doesnt apply to weddings? It’s shit. 

Post # 47
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Buzzing Beekeeper

We found out yesterday that my sister tested positive for covid. She didn’t go to a party or break the rules. She went to work and got it off someone that did. She is a nurse that works in ED and contracted off a 20 something that attended an illegal party and had too much to drink and landed in the ED. 

If you care so little about your own friends and family that you will still throw your party then I am guessing that you give no thought to the people like my sister who have to clean up your messes.

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Post # 48
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Helper bee

Exactly! It’s not like there’s a morally neutral choice here. Either you look out for your community or you’re a selfish narcissist. I am tired of all the social medial lectures and memes telling us to be compassionate toward the anti-maskers because everyone is making the best choices they can for their families. WTF?

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Post # 49
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Blushing bee
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@gryffinfoot:  oops, from San Francisco Chronicle: Catholic Church still holding weddings despite authorities saying no… broke up a wedding happening (this month), bride and groom and 8 guests tested positive. Guests were all exposed and flew back to several other places in the United States after the wedding.

…and that’s how this keeps getting worse 🙃

Post # 50
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Helper bee

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@LittleFrenchBee:  If it makes you feel any better in NJ they’re still not allowing indoor weddings whatsoever and outdoors are limited capacity (I don’t know the exact # but I haven’t seen more than 100 in pictures) and all food needs to be served by wait staff (essentially no cocktail hour). 

And outdoor weddings just camencame back in the past couple of weeks. Until about two weeks ago there were no weddings at all (unless you had like, ten people) since March. And our numbers have been steadily declining for months now.

We haven’t had indoor dining since March. And both indoor dining and weddings are gone ” indefinitely” per the governor. 

Outdoor dining and retail came back just a month ago.

Some places in the US do care. It’s frustrating to me to watch other states not taking it seriously without realizing how it’s affecting states like NJ. Because things won’t be back to normal here until it slows down elsewhere. And it’s affecting people’s mental and physical health. 

I just pray I can get married in February. Outdoor won’t be an option then. Our numbers have been declining since April. I never worried about February until these other states started spiking. Now I have no idea.

Post # 51
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Helper bee

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@missbee22334:  

The point you are missing is by having your wedding as planned and risking more covid spread you are selfishly preventing thousands of brides in states that are not allowing weddings from not getting married. We haven’t had weddings in new Jersey or new York since March. Yes March. Outdoor weddings with limited capacities just began two weeks ago. Indoor weddings are canceled “indefinitely” per the governor. Indoor dining is also canceled indefinitely. Outdoor dining began about a month ago, along with retail. I’m getting married in February 2021. New Jersey peaked in April. I never considered February would be an issue but now with these spikes elsewhere it’s starting to worry me.

It’s frustrating when our numbers have steadily been going down for months to have other states start peaking and not social distancing and causing us to go from almost being out of the woods to having no end in sight because our governors are more cautious then others. It’s affecting people’s mental and physical health. And it sucks.

Post # 52
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Bumble bee

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@gabby456:  I wish I could say my state was doing better. Ohio was doing a great job until mid-June and now we have record high cases every single day. Our governor mandated masks all over the gate but there are still SO MANY (too many)people who feel like masks are just a way for the government to take our rights.

People are having huge weddings, parties, everything. People are actually personally suing Amy Acton who was our health director and advised DeWine to shut the state down. He’s literally getting death threats over this. It’s these kind of idiots that are causing this and I get so angry about it.

Post # 53
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Bee Keeper

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@gabby456:  Preach. 

We have Murphy, a Democratic governor who unlike our president and his Republican buddies has actually listened to scientists and doctors and shut everything down and insisted on masks. You can’t go into any store without a mask. Our numbers are high but they are decreasing steadily. I have spoken to people I know in hospitals who say the situation is definitely improving. May it continue to do so.

 

Post # 54
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Helper bee

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@sunburn:  yes I admit I was hesitant at first because of how strict it seemed but the path really has proven to be successful! Even with the reopenings of things the numbers are still going down because theyre reopening cautiously and slowly. I hope it continues to do so!

Post # 55
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Helper bee

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@JemmyGee:  it’s so crazy. I’m sorry that’s happening there! I hope our numbers keep going down but worry that we’ll be in trouble with the issues everywhere else. Fingers crossed! 

Post # 56
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Busy bee

 

@JemmyGee:  

They cancelled a yearly car show in my area and people showed up and did it anyway. I was almost late for work because of the traffic, and parking lots were packed with people, some in masks, some not. No one cares about the pandemic in my area. I’ve been vocal about feeling like expecting people to live in total isolation for the duration isn’t realistic, especially if their state says they don’t have to, but what I’m seeing is blatant disregard/unconcern like COVID never happened. I really don’t get it. 

Post # 57
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Buzzing bee
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@LittleFrenchBee:  Haven’t read through all the responses here, but just wanted to say I’m with you. I’m sitll expected to be in a wedding in a couple months for a bride and groom who insist COVID is over-hyped. In a a state that’s been badly affected too. 

Post # 58
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I totally judge people who choose to have big weddings right now!!! I am a nurse working in a hospital so I worry about the safety of my patients and coworkers who pay the price when people wrecklessly decide to have large events during a pandemic! I don’t understand how people can be so selfish to not care which one of their friends or family gets sick or dies.

Post # 59
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Helper bee

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@missbee22334:  It sounds like you’ve had a challenging year. Would you consider postponing or scaling back your wedding? Despite distancing and hygeine measures, there’s not really a way to make anything but a microwedding safe at the moment.

A wedding day is a day to celebrate love, and how better to show your loved ones and your community that you love them than by selflessly modifying your wedding to keep them safe?

Right now, because of closed borders, we can’t visit my elderly Father-In-Law. Every day I wonder whether we’ll ever see him alive again. It hurts. 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@hikingbride:  The “we shouldn’t judge” is a Christian value that made its way into American society, since this country is majority Christian. Lots of references to this in the New Testament (Matthew 7:1, John 8:7, Romans 2:1). Nothing at all wrong with Christian values or people who adehere to them, but it isn’t for everyone. And as someone who is not a Christian, I think it’s interesting to see what American values actually come from Christianity.

Personally, I think that making judgments and not making judgments both have a place. There is a lot of nuance to be had depending on the situation. And in this situation, I don’t think it’s wrong to judge when people are putting others’ health and lives at risk for their entertainment.

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@missbee22334:  What kind of logic is that? No one has to have a big wedding. No one has to have any kind of public celebration. It’s not necessary. Go get married at the Justice of the Peace (possibly over Zoom if it’s not safe to meet in your area). That gets the job done. What are well-thought-out reasons that someone HAS to have a big wedding?

Getting people sick with possibly dire consequences (death, stroke, permanent lung damage are all related to COVID-19 infection) is WAY WORSE than not having a party. You can always postpone the in-person celebration until it’s safe. Putting people at risk because you have to have a party is selfish.

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