(Closed) [Mini-vent] Kind of frustrated by people having huge weddings right now

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Post # 61
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Newbee

That sucks, I’m sorry and I totallu know how this feels! But you are doing the right thing as throwing a huge party right now is probably not really wise.

Post # 62
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Worker bee

I have nurse friends who work in large urban hospitals who are attending large weddings. I also have such friends who are traveling to the beach and such. Florida and South Alabama to be exact. I guess they don’t seem to see any major issues with these choices.

Post # 63
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

I am 100% on board with the opinion of this thread (people having big COVID weddings suck) but I remember a similar post recently where a bee shared a photo (faces blurred out if I remember correctly) of a large wedding party and the hive jumped down her throat for being judgemental and ‘not knowing their circumstances’. 

Funnily enough, I just checked back on that thread and it was @missbee22334 who was defending them, only that time everyone liked her comment. Lol….this place confuses me sometimes. 

 

 

Post # 64
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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@peach11:  I remember that thread! My reaction was way different because in that thread, OP uploaded a personal picture of the wedding from the bride’s social media account. I was one of the people who said that although hosting an event during this pandemic is negligent and selfish, I also believe that her sharing the picture so the internet could identify that specific individual crossed the line.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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@maggie2020:  Fortunately, your nurse friends simply aren’t representative of the scientific or medical community. Being a nurse does not make a person an expert in infectious diseases. 

Post # 66
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

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@bluecutie00:  Yeah I totally agree the photo wasn’t necessary and the same post could have been written without it. My recollection of the post in general was a lot of people saying ‘don’t judge others/you don’t know their circumstances”. (um….what are the circumstances that warrant a giant princess look-at-me-party during a global pandemic?)

Kinda funny that looking back on it the main defender was the same bee who, in this thread, is being chastised for going full steam ahead with her own selfish COVID wedding. It all makes sense now!

Post # 68
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

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@LittleFrenchBee:  I don’t think you were part of the thread I was referring to were you? (I just went back and checked as your reply really confused me!) but yeah I completely agree with you on this post – people are being selfish and big weddings are totally unneccesary. The only people trying to justify them are the people having them. 

Post # 70
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

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@LittleFrenchBee:  Ahhh okay I’m with you. 

Post # 71
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Honey Beekeeper

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@missbee22334: “Have a wedding, don’t have a wedding. It’s the couples choice, but no one else can judge them. Don’t go is still a valid answer to people who aren’t comfortable. I’m over people thinking that the decisions others are making around their nuptials are their business. Sorry you had to post pone your micro wedding in another country OP but that doesn’t mean that your bitterness is a justification for judgement”

Seems hypocritical coming from the same person who judged the hell out of a totally inoffensive and harmless speech at your Brother-In-Law and SIL’s wedding where they said they have been together since middle school. You felt that since they broke up for two years along the way, something that literally no one was affected by or cared about, that it was wrong, misleading and some kind of lie. So much for judgments. 

Now, when you want to do something that really does have the ability to hurt or kill others including the potential for spread to your community and beyond, all of a sudden it’s no one else’s business and no one can judge. Got it.

Post # 72
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Bumble Beekeeper

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@missbee22334:  Have a wedding, don’t have a wedding. It’s the couples choice, but no one else can judge them. 

Wrong. Most people are going to judge the hell out of anyone having a large gathering right now, whether it’s a wedding, a graduation party, family reunion, whatever. You will be judged for having even a socially distanced outdoor wedding reception, even by your families/friends/guests who choose to attend. 

The headlines this morning featured 150 medical experts/scientists/etc. recommending shutting the US down again to “contain the rampant spread of the virus.” I don’t get to go back to work until indoor gatherings are safe again. Every spreader event means I’m out of work even longer. (And yes, ‘spreader event’ is what all of these gatherings are called in my region. And that’s why I canceled my reception.)

Post # 73
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Blushing bee

I’m in the US and I care. We had an elopement with a socially distanced photographer (doubling as our witness) and officiant wearing masks. We streamed it to our immediate family. When there’s a vaccine, we will have an in person reilgious ceremony and reception. 

People can do what they want to (I don’t agree with anyone having a normal wedding right now, but that is out of my control, so I’m not gonna give myself a heart attack over it) but keeping everyone safe was the top priority and led to us doing it this way.

Post # 74
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2021 - City, State

Ok there’s a bunch the mods need to go over in this one.  Closing.

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