- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
we are lucky to have one of the very few j crew bridal stores close by and i wanted to see my favorite color and the dresses in person. i had intended to go on my own because i really just wanted to see the dresses by the consultant was pretty enthusiastic about getting some girls in to try on and i thought i would just take my Maid/Matron of Honor, since she was the one i was most concernedabout being happy anyway. she is a beautiful girl but has major self image issues and i want her to feel good. somehow it ballooned into my 4 local BMs coming.
appointment day came and the night quickly went downhill. I had called beforehand and specifically asked about sizes because 2 of my girls are 14/16s. I was assured they had things to try on. they only had 3 dresses in size 16 or 20. the 3 most unflattering styles for someone with curves and both girls were visibly disheartened. i felt seriously dreadful about it. i had warned them a couple times leading up to the trip that i had no idea what the situation would be like since the website said the samples were typically in size 8 but still it feels shitty to not be able to try things on and have everyone know it.
worse was a specific BM’s behavior. she clearly did not like the color i liked, which is fine. certainly shes allowed to not like it. part of the reason i wanted to go see the dresses was to determine what the color was like in real life. it is much greener than i thought, and while i still liked it, i knew i had to think about it… she pounced on my indescision. she kept commenting on the colors of the other dresses and then actually asked the consultant to look in the back room for other colors and started selecting her favorites of them. she began talking all about the accessories that she would pair with each new color. at the end of the appointment she told the consultant to write down the colors she selected so i would have them for reference…
seriously??? i am in no way considering “firing” my Bridesmaid or Best Man or starting a war over this, but man oh man did it irritate me. i want all my girls to look and feel beautiful on the big day, but just because you look good in fuschia doesnt mean that it’s an option. *sigh*