Post # 1
So back in late July I went to an outdoor venue to watch a band play with my Fiance, coworkers and a few friends. It was mostly all men. I was the only one who was underage (20 years old). I gave in to peer pressure/got too daring and took a shot with Fiance. An undercover cop came over and asked for my ID and we ended up getting ticketed for it. In November we finally got the notice in the mail. Fiance went through about 4 court dates and $500 later he is on diversion for a year so that it never goes on his record. My process of getting on diversion has taken FOREVER. I’m still not done. Today I had to go talk to an addictions counselor about my drinking/drug habits. They will vote on whether or not I can be on diversion soon and let me know in a few weeks. She said I’ll have to sign a contract stating I will not leave the state without permission, will not consume alcohol and will stay out of trouble with the law for a year. I also will undergo a drug test. It has already cost me $200 and likely $400- $500 more.
I’m turning 21 in nine days. How am I supposed to celebrate my 21st if I can’t drink?! We’re going to Vegas in March for my birthday! Am I supposed to turn down drinks from my mom who is so excited to take me out to dinner? I’m in my last year of college, 3.6 gpa, graduating in 3 and a half years from high school, in Big Brothers Big Sissters, taking 15 college hours while working 30 hours. I know I broke the law and shouldn’t have had that one shot. I feel like this has blown up to a huge ordeal. It is costing me so much time and money. How can they make me agree not to drink (even though I’ll be legal) for a whole year? How can they monitor this?
Sigh. I don’t know what I’m looking for. Just needed to vent. I burst into tears at the addictions place today. I felt so out of place. They are making me feel like such a criminal. I don’t even drink often. Maybe twice a month. I’m concerned about the drug test. I smoke marijuana on occasion. So many worries going through my head right now.
Post # 3
Wow, the underage drinking laws in Kansas are ridiculous… my SO has drinking and driving on his record but his probation was only active in county of arrest, and had complete freedom (other than driving) all over. He had a really good lawyer who was friends with the judge so that probably helped too.
Post # 4
Do you have a lawyer? Maybe they can help you so you won’t have to stop drinking when you are legal. I’d be worried about the other drug use you have if they decide to do a hair test, it could still show up even if it wasn’t recent.
Post # 5
Wow, that’s really extreme! You can’t leave the state without permission? That is crazy!
Post # 6
I thought about getting a lawyer but this far down the road it seems pointless. I also don’t want to pay for one. She said it would be a urine test and that in a few weeks I would be fine. It’s been about a week and half since my last use. I’m nervous but there’s not much in my control at this point. It’s not all laws in Kansas that are messed up. It’s the county I’m in. They “personalize” it to the person so maybe they will be easier on me once I get my say. The “personalization” makes it a MUCH longer process though. My other friends pay their fees, take there alcohol abuse class and move on with their lives. I though this would be the case for me but not in this county. They group MIC, MIP and DUI’s in the same group.
Post # 7
Wow, that’s some intense laws… drinking underage here is pretty much a bylaw ticket for a hundred bucks IF that.
I would definitely cease all marijuana activity from now until the drug test though, as that can show up for an extended period, and if they’re taking such an extreme line already, I wouldn’t want to tempt it further.
Post # 8
It’s somewhat my fault they are making me take a drug test. I couldn’t lie in the interview today. Since I said I’ve dabbled in marijuana they will add it to my acceptance process. All of this has really made me hate the local goverment. She said my case is very rare and she never has someone like me come in for an alcohol evalutation. I know it’s not how things work but I wish I could say “Hey, I’m a good person! Give me a break!”