(Closed) Minor jealousy: Anybody else?

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
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372 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2017

topshelfprincess:  lol – are you going to be a teeeensy bit jealous if/when her 15 day relationship/proposal turns into a 15 month divorce?

Ring envy is understandable, just remember you’re in a better, more stable and more secure long-term relationship with someone who you know inside and out.

After 2 weeks, he sounds impulsive and crazy to propose and she sounds impulsive and crazy to say yes. Does she know his middle name yet? 

Post # 34
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245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2019

An acquaintance of mine (she’s in my bf’s friend group) just got engaged, she and her fiance had been dating just over a year. I was so happy for her as he’s a great guy and they are so right for one another, but I couldn’t help but feel a little jealous, I had been dating my bf  a full year before she even met this guy! When does it get to be my turn? Lol. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

caselicious:  Most of the people at your wedding won’t care or know about your cousin. You have one side of the family not related to her at all, none of your FI’s family is related to her and probably your friends don’t care about her. Most of them will never see her shower decorations. She is only going to be the center of attention to a handful of people.

Post # 36
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376 posts
Helper bee

topshelfprincess:  Of course! It’s so hard. My bf and I are coming up on 3.5 years in February and I’m dyyyyying. I didn’t think I wouldnt be engaged at this point I thought maybe two years but it didn’t work out that way. And I really didn’t start getting the itch til we hit year three in August. I want to be engaged so badly and it’s because I want to call him fiancé and start the planning of our lives and what not and I want the ring as a sparkly reminder of all that. Unfortunately getting a ring is taking painstakingly long for my taste and seeing all these engagement posts on Instagram and here even I’m like oh boooo! Especially for the ones who haven’t been dating as long as me and SO have. But I am happy for them. Truly because getting engaged is one of the most exciting milestones of life in my opinion. But of course I can’t help but feel that spark of jealousy deep down. It’s been so tough during this engagement season because idk about you or anyone else but all I can think is when is it gonna be my turn?! Sigh… Eventually though lol. 

Post # 37
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376 posts
Helper bee

megkate87:  I just said that in my post too before even reading yours! Preach girl! 

Post # 38
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260 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

I may have “gotten sick” and pulled a friend into the bathroom so I could cry when I saw a very close and newly engaged friend of mine for the first time since it happened. Shit happens. I was still excited for her, just jealous as f

Post # 39
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been together 3.5 years, and he’s not a quick decision maker, so I foresee more waiting in my future. I don’t get jealous of most couples’ engagements, because everyone’s situation is different, but I know a few couples I think of as older versions of us: met in grad school like Boyfriend or Best Friend and I did, in the same field, have the same job Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have, etc. Those couples all got engaged after, on average, about two years of dating, and were all married by the time they’d been dating 3.5 years. When Boyfriend or Best Friend and I first started dating, I compared our relationship benchmarks to theirs and the timelines were similar…except for engagement. So when I think of them, I have a little pang of: “Man, I want that too.”

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016 - The Great Southern Club

 

topshelfprincess:  YES! i have been majorly jealous before. Last year my best friend(now ex best friend) came to me three days before christmas and told me she and her boyfriend were getting married the DAY AFTER CHRISTMAS and wanted to throw a backyard wedding. She has been with her spouse for the same amount of time I have been with my Fiance, and she was always bashing marriage and how it is stupid…..ends up she got married because she needed health insurance(she doesn’t work) because she thought she had cancer. I got engaged the next month and she told my friends before i was able to tell them…needless to say we aren’t friends anymore but i sure was jealous someone that bashed marriage and weddings so much got married before me when it was something i really wanted!!

 

i also wouldn’t be surprised if their relationship didn’t last. i witnessed the same thing through facebook and the couple ended up divorcing and being very hateful on social media. keep your head up! you will get the proposal and all the frustrations melt away :):):)

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