Post # 1
So one of our guests (that we gave a +1 too!) gave us an off-registry item, which is fine. However, it was of a very low dollar amount (also fine) and what I couldn’t figure out is why didn’t they just buy something of equal value off the registry which is actually something we wanted? The off-registry item was heavily discounted (though they left on the original price tag)as we learned the day after the wedding and nothing that we wanted so we now have store credit to a store we never shop at. They also didn’t give a gift receipt, so actually, we got back even less than what they spent.
I totally understand if finances are a problem but if it is about spending $20 at a random store for a random item (that’s nothing like anything on the couple’s registry) versus spending $20 on a specific item ON the registry, why wouldn’t you just do that?
Post # 3
I don’t think they gave you the gift with the intention that you would return it and have a credit at a store you don’t shop at. Maybe they put some thought into the gift or that store was more convenient for them. Registries are just a suggestion and usually make it easier for people, but your guests can buy gifts wherever they like.
Post # 4
@louisianablue: I’m pretty sure that’s the case too. Darling Husband and I always err on the side of the registry (to take the guesswork out of it) so it is always perplexing to us when people go off-registry. We had a few other gifts off the registry, but they were very much in the same theme/aesthetics as what was on our registry. Don’t get me wrong; we’re grateful to get a gift, but wished it was actually something we wanted/would use rather than having to return it and waste their efforts.
Post # 5
It sounds like they tried to not spend much on a gift without you knowing about it. I’ve done it before, but it was a registry gift that was just on clearance at a non-registry store (and I did include the gift receipt, but hoped they didn’t return it and discover how little I spent!).
Post # 6
Ya… people get so hung up on these things. My friend just called to ask what to buy my brother for his wedding… I said cash or something off the registry. “but I’d feel weird about buying them 2 or 3 bowls” “why? if you give them cash, they’re going to turn around and buy 2 or 3 bowls with it”
At least in that case I could drive home that they were going to be living in a 1 bed apartment so REALLY don’t have space for stuff.
I personally don’t get the hang up people have with buying registry items.
Perhaps that person shops and keeps a “stash,” like I do for baby showers? It’s too bad that the gift is really something that you don’t want.
Post # 7
@AB Bride: I totally wouldn’t mind if someone bought a registry gift that was discounted at a non-registry store. In fact, I would be glad (assuming it doesn’t end up a duplicate gift) because it’s a better deal!
@pigzfly: I could see keeping a stash for baby shower stuff, especially for basics like plain white onsies or generic burp cloths because parents definitely have a ton of those on registries. That’s a good idea.
Post # 8
Just to offer a different perspective – I have YET to give a gift from someone’s registry. Heck, I have yet to LOOK at someone’s registry. I really dislike being told what to give. I usually give money, but a few times I have given presents of my own choosing. If the person/couple doesn’t like it. they can return it or regift it!