Post # 1
I am having a miscarriage and am heartbroken. It took us 14 cycles to get pregnant with this one, and I am devastated at the thought of starting it all over again. For those of you who have miscarried, how long did it take you to get pregnant again? I’m not looking only for success stories (although those would be helpful!) – if it took you a long time or if you haven’t been successful, I’d like to hear that, too, so that I can prepare myself for realistic expectations.
Also, how long did it take for your bleeding to stop? I’m not sure if the worst is over or if I still have days of bleeding ahead of me. The cramping has started to lessen.
Post # 2
I got pregnant, and miscarried, two more times. The last one was caused by external trauma. I never found anyone I trusted enough to get pregnant with after my husband’s passing.
I’m almost 50, and still ache for a child. I wish you all the very, very best and good luck with becomeing a Momma of a Rainbow
Post # 3
I guess my case is a little different since I needed intervention to even get pregnant. But it took me 3.5 years and 4 rounds of IVF, with 3 making it to a transfer, to get pregnant and lost that at 9 weeks (had a d/c). We did another round and 6 months later was pregnant again after 1 transfer, but that ended up being a chemical (1 HEAVY day of bleeding and then about a week of spotting). Another year, more testing, an 3 month course of treatment we did another transfer which finally ended up being my son. He was born 6 years to the month we started trying.
Post # 4
I’m so sorry for your loss. Obviously everyone is different but this is my experience. I had a miscarriage in December. It took two weeks to stop bleeding completely but it was really light for the last few days. I actually got a positive pregnancy test less than 6 weeks after I started bleeding for the miscarriage and I’m currently nearly 9 weeks pregnant. I’m having some issues with this pregnancy but they are unrelated. I know some doctors advise to wait a few months before trying but I was told there is no reason to wait as long as the miscarriage is complete and you feel emotionally ready.
Unfortunately, miscarriage is extremely common but the good news is most people go on to have healthy pregnancies. I hope you get your sticky baby soon!
If look at my profile, I started a thread where people shared their experiences of miscarriage.
Post # 5
bywater : pinkshoes :
Thank you for sharing your stories – I am so sorry about your losses, and I appreciate you taking the time to comment here.
Post # 6
MancBee : Thank you. I will check out your thread. I hope the issues with your current pregnancy work out okay!
Post # 7
I had one full week of bleeding, the next week (maybe 10 days later?) I ovulated and became pregnant right away. My doctor said they always recommend waiting one full cycle before trying again. When I asked why, she said honestly as long as mom is healthy it’s just mostly for dating purposes, so they’re sure of his far along you are. Especially since you don’t know if you’ll stay exactly on schedule for your first period after the miscarriage. That wasn’t a good enough reason for me so I tried anyway haha. However I knew from other signs exactly which day or 2 of a window that I ovulated. I’m sorry for you loss. I wish you the best and hope you are blessed with a baby you can bring home soon.
Post # 8
I had a miscarriage and a d&c and it took 4-5 months for my periods to regulate. I got pregnant 10 months after my miscarriage. That baby just turned 2 in February.
Post # 9
enjoy : So sorry for your loss :(. When TTC for our first, I had two. The first time was a blighted ovum and it was just a bit heavier/longer than a normal period for me, about 9 days of bleeding and two days of spotting afterwards. We got pregnant that very next cycle again and had a MMC at around 8 weeks (babe had stopped growing around 6.5 weeks). I had a D&C and only bled for 3 days afterwards then had 4 days of spotting. We avoided pregnancy for 2 cycles and then got pregnant with our rainbow using clomid the very next cycle trying. Before that, I had really long, irregular cycles so I had a hard time getting pregnant. I’m not sure if this is true, but some people say that your fertility increases the cycles following a loss, so hopefully it won’t be long for you.
Post # 10
My sister and sister in law miscarried last January. So traumatic .
Both of them were pregnant again within 6 weeks.
They now have two beautiful rainbow babies
Post # 11
My first was around 6 weeks and happened naturally. I think I had a week or so of regular period type bleeding. I got pregnant again with our daughter within 2-3 months.
The second was in October, baby had no heartbeat at the 8 week scan. That one I took misoprostol for. My cycles were really, really messed up for a few months and it took a long time to get back to normal. Hoping we can get back to business here pretty quick.
Post # 12
enjoy : I miscarried last year (pregnancy was not planned) and I haven’t been pregnant again but we haven’t been trying plus we needed IVF for our first kid and we’re expecting to need our frozen embryos for future kids. We just recently went NTNP in the crazy off-chance I get pregnant naturally again, but we’re not counting on it.
As for the bleeding, it took me at least 2 weeks to stop. It sucks because you just want to scream “ok stop I get it I’m not pregnant!”. I know lots of people who got pregnant after miscarriage though! Sadly it’s very common. I’m sorry for your loss, Bee.
Post # 13
So sorry for your loss! I had my first miscarriage at around 10 weeks after about 6 months. I bled for about a week. I then got pregnant again, immediately in the next cycle. Unfortunately that resulted in an early miscarriage as well. I then took a few months off from actively trying, took some time for myself, took a mini trip that sort of thing. We then started actively trying again and it took another 4 months or so before becoming pregnant again, this time it’s stuck! I am now excited and 31 weeks pregnant with a little girl. It took about 12 cycles total.
Everyone is different, if I had a 3rd miscarriage I was going to have some more intensive testing done, fortunately I didn’t have to go that route. Hold your head high, take whatever time you need for yourself, take a break if you need it, and try not to put too much pressure on yourself
Post # 14
I had 3 missed miscarriages in a row while trying for my first. After the first two losses, I was able to get pregnant on my own within 2-3 months. We used IVF for my 3rd and 4th pregnancies. 3rd also ended in a loss, but im currently holding my two week old son!! For a long time, I didn’t think it would happen for me, but I have my beautiful rainbow baby!
Post # 15
I out my IUD out in June 2016, took 4 months to get pregnant. Unfortunately, it was an ectopic and I took methotrexate to clear it out. I bled/spotted for a good month with that one. After we were cleared to TTC again, it took us 5 months. That ended in a missed miscarriage. After my D&C, I only bled for 5 days max, spotted a lot though. It took us 2 months to get pregnant again, but it ended in a missed miscarriage and my D&C was similar that round too. We saw an RE after all that and we found that I had a hydrosalpinx on my right tube, meaning I really only had one working tube as it was. I had my tube removed and tried for 3 months naturally, 3 months with meds and timed intercourse, then 1 month cancelled IUI and the next was the cycle I got pregnant with meds and IUI. So the last time, it took us 8 months. I’m currently 19+2 weeks pregnant with my rainbow.
My case is fairly rare and my advice would be to keep trying, most women do end up with their rainbow babies.