(Closed) Miscarriage help..trying to avoid a d and c

posted 6 years ago in TTC
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am sorry, I don’t have any advise for you-just wanted to say, I’m sorry you are going through this!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@mtler:  No advice to give, but sending you lots of virtual hugs…sorry you are going through this.  However, a few bees have had a D&C done and they said it’s not as bad as they make it out to be.  Hope they see your post and share their experience.  Again, sorry about this and hope you have a speedy recovery.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I started to m/c naturally but didn’t pass all the tissue, so I ended up getting a D&C as well.  Honestly, the D&C wasn’t bad, and it actually helped me emotionally.  I was such a wreck during the natural m/c, feeling the pain, seeing the blood, having to change a pad that was so much more than just a period.  The D&C gave me closure because I knew that it was over at that point.  I’m so sorry for your loss. ((hugs))

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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

So sorry for your loss. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I will say that my D&C wasn’t bad at all and it is kind of like getting a clean slate to start over, physically and maybe emotionally too as PPs have said. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@mtler:  My m/c was at a similar point; blighted ovum measured 6wks and I was supposed to be 10wks.  I had a lot of bleeding and several large clots that passed before the D&C. It was heavier than any period I’d ever had (and I have had some heavy periods).

Even though the D&C is called “surgery”, it’s really not.  There’s no slicing involved; they dilate your cervix, remove all the remaining tissue via suction, and then it’s over.  The risks are really pretty minimal.  Most of the risks come from the anesthesia.  But they will do an u/s at your appointment before any decision is made to determine whether there is any tissue remaining; if there is, then you schedule the D&C.  

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mtler:  we have similar stories. I went in for my first ultrasound on 2/13 and was told I had a blighted ovum. I should have been 10 weeks but my uterus was only measuring 6.5 and there was no baby – just an empty sac. My doctor offered me 3 choices, wait for a natural miscarriage, take the misoprostol, or have a D&C. I was in shock when I made the decision and probably would have chosen the D&C if I had to do it over again but I chose the Misoprostol. I took the drug on Wednes night and didnt have super heavy bleeding but had tons of pain and nausea. I definately passed a lot of LARGE clots and the sac. The bleeding was what I personally would expect on day 3 of a normal period. I went back for a follow up ultrasound yesterday and was told that I cleared everything but as of 7am this morning I have had nothing but terrible cramping in my tummy and lower back and my uterus feels like a brick. Hopefully, you will have a clear uterus but if not, I recommend the D&C and get it over with. This whole process has been a nightmare. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@mtler:  I ended up calling my doctor around 1:30pm yesterday and was told to head to the hospital where they did another ultrasound and discovered quite a bit of the placenta and other tissue still inside me. I was also starting to develop an infection from the leftover tissues. Because it would have been 11 weeks since conception they advised against a second course of misoprostol and did an emergency d&c at 1:00am this morning. I hated to do it because of the risks associated with a d&c but really had very little choice. Today I feel much better – no pain and very little bleeding.

Everyone I know who has had a “missed miscarriage” has done the d&c and they kept trying to push me to that route initially. I had to go down my own path because, at 36 I worry about fertility and not being able to have a baby. I really didnt want to do anything that would increase that possibility – like possible scarring / puncturing from the d&c.

You need to decide your route for yourself as well. It’s a highly personal decision but, if you are as far along (in weeks from conception despite the blighted ovum) you need to know that your body may not want to give up the tissue inside you which may lead you down my road of travel. The fact that you started bleeding may be a more positive indication that the meds will work because I never had any spotting of any kind.

Good luck with whatever you choose. I’ll be thinking about you. ๐Ÿ™‚  

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m so sorry for your loss!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Just wanted to pop in and say I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’ve had a few losses (we finally think we have an answer as to why) and my first was a BO (or re-absorbed embryo…we’ll never know) that measured 6.5 weeks when I was supposed to be 12 weeks. Ugh, it was a terrible experience. At that time I just wanted it to be over and done with, so I went for the D&C. It was decent…just a bit of pressure like strong period cramps during the procedure and afterward, then some erratic bleeding in the week following.

All of my other M/Cs have been “natural”. I have to say I do prefer the natural route, both pain wise and emotionally, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. I’ve never heard of anyone having complications from a D&C (e.g. Asherman’s). For many it just feels better to get it out of the way.

Anyway, I’m really sorry for your loss. I know how hard it is, and I feel for you and your partner. *hugs*

Post # 16
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@mtler:  Im so sorry you had to go through this. I want to start with my story, me and my husband just got married 9/14/2013. We wanted to start TTC right away, we got that lovely pregnancy test that read POSITIVE!! we we’re over the moon my obgyn wanted to wait to see us until we were at least 8-10 weeks. Felt like the lonest couple of weeks to wait!!!!! me and hubby we’re so excited to see out lil baby on the sono screen and out biggest nightmare came true. I knew right away that something wasn’t right by the look on the techs face, I kept asking is everything ok is everything ok I don’t see anything. She asked me if I had any bleeding or cramping I told her no not at all. I looked up in the air and cried and cried my husband had to ask the rest of the questions for us. She said I had what is called a blighted ovum, never in my life have I every hear of such a thing or knew such a thing existed. She went onto explain that something went wrong with the pregnancy and showed us what a 8 week sac with yolk should look like. I was so lost, empty and confused. The tech left the room and told us she was sorry. She said we will be meeting with another dr in a little while. I was so upset I couldn’t get dressed, my husband had to get my clothes on, how could this happen I feel pregnant no bleeding or cramping!!! What did I do wrong????? Shortly after my nurse practitioner came in she is wonderful I was supposed to be seeing her today for my exam, she does my yearly’s as well. As soon as I saw her face I cried and cried and all she could say was this happens all the time, I asked what did I do?? She said nothing it just didn’t happen. She told me I was going to meet with another dr and I said why cant I just meet with you. She told me she is not trained in these things nor does d&c. D&C!?? NOOO that’s when everything got foggy from there. Another nurse came in and brought us to another room. We met with another dr who was very dry and right to the point, older man who said he has been doing this for a very long time. He said maybe just maybe if I wait a week we might see something but its very unlikely. He said it could be too early to see anything, but again he said its very unlikely after he looked at my sono pictures and said I had a 7 week looking sac. He gave us our options, ideally he said the best would be I would pass on my own, he could give me medicine to start the miscarriage up or the dreaded d&c. I left the office still upset I knew in my heart this was the end. I thought how are we going to tell our families this?? They were all so supportive and I thank God I didn’t have to go through this alone. I got home and goggled everything under the sun, all false blighted ovum’s and success stories. I cried for 2 days straight., Thanksgiving was a couple days later and me and my husband and our 7 year old daughter traveled to VA to visit his family. The week and a half was grueling for me all I wanted to do was pass it on my own if that’s the way it was going to be. The thought of a D&C scared me to know end. The week and a half was here, again I knew in my heart I would see the same sono picture with nothing. I was right. The nurse apologized and said we would be meeting again with the dry older dr. This time he seemed like a new person, very sweet, he told us he was sorry and had the bad news. He told us it was nothing we did wrong and our chances of TTC were not affected and is sure that we would go on to have a healthy pregnancy. He told me he highly recommended to “empty my uterus” I thought no no not a D&C, he told us the procedure was so easy and 15 minutes at the most. He went on to tell us I could wait to miscarry on my own but there’s no telling when that would be, he also was concerned with infection and bleeding being that the size of my sac has grow, my body was still feeding the pregnancy hormone. He told us if we do miscarry on our own the chances of me not passing everything were high and I would still end up needing the D&C. I cried and cried I wanted this naturally, but I knew my husband needed his wife back and our daughter needed her mommy back 100%. I just wanted it over to move on and start healing emotionally and physically and of course start to try again. We were able to meet with another nurse to schedule my D&C for that Friday at one, I thought how am I going to go through with this. I spent the next two days crying and being scared to know end, the morning came for the day of my surgery and I was a nervous wreck I didn’t want to be put to sleep I didn’t want to be hooked up to an IV. I prayed and prayed to have nice nurses and dr because that makes a world of difference. We got to the hospital at 10:30, we we’re given this little buzzer, kind of like when your at a restaurant and your table is ready ๐Ÿ™‚ We didn’t have to fill out any paper work my obgyn office was able to get all my information over for me, well the buzzer went off this is it!!!! I immediately began to get teary eyed and choked up. (The fear of the unknown) they told me to walk down to another desk, my hubby was not allowed to come they said once I’m all prepped he can come visit. The second desk had a nurse waiting to let me though the big double doors, as soon as I entered my room and saw my SWEEEEET nurse, hospital gown and (ugly socks) I busted out crying. But before the nurse saw me cry she said how are you and then the tears started, she said “ok this is normal and understandable, you are going to be just fine I promise”. Immediately I felt better. She could tell I was very nervous and told me she would have a treat for me after I met with the anesthesiologist. She said if I like wine ill love her forever, she was going to give me some soothing meds and its like a bottle of wine without the calories. I was reluctant at first, I don’t like the outer body experience and not being in control, I think that’s why the whole putting me to sleep freaked me out so much! She asked me some more health history, some crazy question I might add a lot we just laughed through. I met with the anesthesiologist and he was a fun guy! Told me everything that he was going to do and how I would feel when I woke up and got home. Then the knees started to shake and she told me she would get my husband so I could have this zero calorie wine, she felt it was important my husband see me before any soothing meds were given. Like I said I was reluctant at first so she said she didn’t want me to feel pressured but she is treating me like a little sister, again sweet nurse, world of difference. She gave me half of the syringe through my iv and what a help!! Knees instantly stopped shaking and we we’re able to talk and laugh. Then my sweet nurse had to head out for lunch and then the knees started to knock again, she gave me the rest of the wine ๐Ÿ™‚ me and my husband shared a few good laughs. The dr who was going to preform the surgery came in sat down with me and told me everything step by step, was so sweet him and my husband were able to laugh and joke about some football. The sweet nurse came back into check on me and told me the OR room is running behind, I’m ready to get this over with. Another nurse comes into my room who was also very kind introduces himself to us and asks my husband to head out because the dr was ready for me. The kind nurses gives me some more wine which was great and fun little ride to the OR room,once I got to the OR room all I can remember is a whole lot of lights and sweet voices, telling me I was going to do just fine. They told me they were going to give me an oxygen mask for some air, after that I was going going gone, waking up in recovery!!!!!!! I actually woke up as they were wheeling me back into my room and felt great! Just a little crampy like a normal period ( I typically have rough ones) I got to see my husband right away, and they asked me what I wanted to drink because I had to pee before they would send me home. I chugged apple juice and water to get the heck out of there. I was gone in no time, I told my husband family and friends you were all right it was nothing! The best sleep I ever had!
However,The moral of this story is that I was scared just like YOU, I will be ok and so will YOU! Not at all throughout this post have you heard me say omg I was in so much pain, that was the scariest thing I ever went through, not at all. I am again so glad I decided to have this pregnancy removed and not wait around for it to pass on its own. I don’t want to say this is what every woman should do, however this is what was right for me. Today is the day after my surgery and I feel great. It does not hurt to walk, I had a ball at my daughters first basketball game of the season, I was shopping at Target as well ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m a little sore in my right arm where they gave me a shot to dilate my cervix. I only know about this shot because I asked why is my arm a little sore, and they explained. They said sometimes the dr will give it to you in your hip or arm. All in all yesterday was anything but traumatic, I hope that if this is something that you will be experiencing soon this story will help. Truly the worst part was the silly IV or maybe having to be woken up for that lovely slumber. However, I am not above admitting that I still feel a pinch of sadness whenever I remember that “oh yeah I will not be having a baby in July nor picking out any baby names or registering for my baby shower”- right now there is no baby. However I am definitely on the mend. I also feel people should not have to be so hush hush about a miscarriage or d&c it does truly just make it more scary when its not, my only wish is that I hope what I’ve shared here will help people know what to expect and to not feel so lonely or afraid. Despite all of this I was surprised how quickly I got over things on an emotional and physical level. I hope you don’t think I’m heartless but I have cried and cried about the lack of baby since the day I have found out until yesterday. This information is personal to me and my husband, but I feel I had to share my story because I know in the bottom of my heart I’m not the only woman going though this. This is the kind of post I wish I found on all night Google searches. If you are going through this please please know that you will be OKAY. Please know that I am praying and thinking of you! If you want to reach out please please do I would love to be that person to bring you any comfort. God bless you ALL>

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