(Closed) Miscarriage options

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Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I just want to say I’m so sorry you’re going through this and send support your way.

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@hotpinkbride:  I also had blood in my uterus as well, but it’s hard to say if I would have started to miscarry naturally anytime soon.  I just didn’t want to wait.  I was suffering enough and just wanted it to be over.  Part of the reason that I wanted to do the medication vs d&c is that I would have had to wait until the following fri before my OB could get it done.  I figured if I had to wait another week anyways, I might as well do the medication and get it done faster.  Had I had the option to have a d&c the day we found out, I may have chosen differently, but I also didn’t know about the medication, so I had time to do some research over the week.  For your sake, I really hope you do miscarry naturally so you don’t have to do anything.  But like your husband’s friend, if I had multiple miscarriages again, I would have wondered if I could have prevented it.  It was just a risk I wasn’t willing to take.  I have a happy ending though.  I’m currently 17w pregnant and everything is progressing great!  So like others, I was able to get pregnant a few months after the miscarriage, but in my case, I was on Clomid.  Either way, know that the chance for multiple miscarriages is pretty low.  you’re going to come out of this stronger and when you do get pregnant with your rainbow baby, it will make it that much more special.

Post # 20
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Bumble Beekeeper
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@hotpinkbride:  I have no advice. I just wanted to say I am so sorry for your loss, and I just want to give you a big, tight virtual hug. Much love to your and your DH.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I’m so sorry honey. Big hugs to you. I haven’t been through this exact situation but if I had I think I would induce miscarriage through medication, i think it’s best if you don’t have to wait for weeks or months for it to happen naturally.

Post # 25
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@hotpinkbride:  First of all I’m so sorry for you, this is heartbreaking.

If it’s absolutely confirmed that the pregnancy is over, then I personally would take the D&C option. It’s faster and you will heal. Go to a hospital and be put under and have it done properly. You will bleed after but you will whatever you choose. You’re early enough that a D&C is completely safe and shouldn’t prevent you from get pregnant again.

It might be a little more ‘satisfying’ (in the most horrible way) to have a natural mc – by your body or by taking the medication – but it will be a LOT harder emotionally than the D&C. Trust me, I’ve had both.

Waiting for your body to pass it naturally might the worst of all options because it could take days or weeks. You will be in torture waiting.

The bright side is, there are SO many women who have even multiple miscarriages or even D&C’s and go on to have healthy pregnancies – I’m one of them.

Godd luck and it will be awfully hard but you will eventually be ok.

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@hotpinkbride:  aww I’m so sorry about your grandfather.  I hope you’re able to be with family and make the best of both situations.  best of luck.

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@hotpinkbride:  I am so very sorry to hear that you are going through this.

I found out at 7w2d that there was no fetal pole, just a sac measuring 5.5 weeks. They scheduled a follow up ultrasound for 10 days later, unfortunately I miscarried naturally 5 days after the first u/s (would’ve been 8 weeks). We didn’t initially discuss options for miscarriage because everyone was hoping my dates were just off. If I had gone back for the second ultrasound and found no progress, I would’ve scheduled a D&C asap. I had one before for a polyp removal and it was relatively painless and I feel it would provide the quickest, least painful closure.

I have heard horror stories of medically induced miscarriage where the pain is awful and it takes a while and might take two rounds of meds. I’m not very aware of the risks of damage to the uterus due to D&C, so don’t take my word for it, but personally it would be my choice if I had not mc’d naturally.  

Just for your reference, after I naturally miscarried, it took about 3 weeks for the hCG to clear out of my system, which meant that I still had pregnancy symptoms that entire time. That alone was very difficult for me. I spent the entire month convincing myself I was pregnant again based on phantom ovulation symptoms and BD timing. I spent an enormous amount of money on pregnancy tests that were giving me faint positives based on the hcg that was leftover from the MC. Thankfully I finally got my period last weekend and am putting that nightmare behind me. 

Whatever your choice, I wish you the best. I’m so sorry you have to go through this. The Bee is an excellent source of support and experience in this difficult time.

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2007 - Radisson Hotel

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@hotpinkbride:  I am SO so sorry you are going through this. I miscarried at about the same timeline as you. Well, I didn’t miscarry, the baby died without my body knowing about it. Like you, I wanted to try again ASAP so I chose to wait for my body to miscarry naturally. Despite two incidences of spotting, I waited for two weeks and my body never got the picture. Since I had a previous c-section and I also didn’t want to wait the designated wait time after a D & C I chose the misoprostol. Luckily (ha.), I took one dose vaginally (four pills) and it kicked in within two hours. I only needed four advil and the pain was dulled by quite a lot. It’s not clean and it’s not easy, but it’s the closest to natural you can get after letting your body do it on its own. For me, a d & c, while quick and relatively painless with anesthesia, it was just too invasive for me.

 

I waited the standard one cycle until we tried again, and my cycles were completely back to normal and since we missed our chance that first new cycle, I was able to get pregnant (and stay pregnant, I’m now 20w with my fourth pregnancy, second baby) on the next cycle post medicinal treatment.

 

Again, I am SO SO sorry.

 

Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I have no advise, just wanted to send my throughts and prayers to you, and to your family. So much tragedy in such a short time, my heart goes out to you.

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