- 11 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
Hope things get better for you : /
Hope things get better for you : /
joygirl – I hope you get what you are looking for, either with your current Fiance or at some point in the future. We all deserve love and respect and someone who will be a true partner in good times and bad.
joygirl – I’ve been following all of your posts, and I think the two of you need to step away from the wedding planning. Postpone the wedding until you get your issues in your relationship sorted out! i don’t think that getting married is going to solve anything here, and it’s not going to make things better.
After reading everything, you deserve to be treated much better than you are. If every time you get into a fight when you’re married, he’s going to give you the cold shoulder and say very mean things to you, that’s not a healthy relationship. The more and more I read your posts, the more and more I see a zillion red flags popping up. He’s punishing you for things that are equally both of your fault. He’s blaming every argument on you, and when you try to resolve things, he turns his back on you and doesn’t care.
I don’t want to say to leave him, b/c that’s so much easier said than done. But, I don’t think you should get married at this point until you have your issues worked out. It’s much easier to find out now that he’s not the one for you than when you’re already married.
I do wish you the best, but definitely protect yourself here.
Things have been much better since we started counseling.
We’re (HE is) communicating better.
I’m really glad you have started counseling. Just remember that you didn’t “waste” 2 years of your life-you learned a lot about who you are and what you want in a person. You don’t deserve to be treated like trash. I think you should step away from the wedding planning for a bit and focus on your relationship and if you truly want to be in it. It’s better to find all this out now, than after you get married. I wish you the best. *hugs*
I was IN YOUR PLACE A YEAR AGO. He seriously sounds exactly like my last boyfriend, I can’t even explain how much.
The “dont touch me”, to the not being able to love someone like they should be loved. His counselor told him he needed to love himself and realize that he deserves to be happy.
However, no amount of counseling could fix him, and I couldn’t either. I thought I could. It was very hard to give up on him– but you can’t help others if they are not willing to help themselves.
He has emotional issues outside of your relationship he needs to deal with. He has demons he needs to face.
I left him almost a year ago, and am now with a wonderful man who respects and appreciates me! We are planning to get married Oct 2011. I am here to tell you to leave if you are unhappy. You cannot “settle”!!!! It is worth the heart break because I can tell you from my own experience, there is a man out there who wants nothing more than to see you smile 🙂 🙂 🙂
However, give him a chance if you TRULY want to make it work. For me, the feelings I had for him just faded… in like 2 weeks flat. I mean, something broke and they were just gone.
DEFINITELY PM ME IF YOU WANT TO TALK!!!!!!! I’m a listener 🙂
I’m glad to hear things are heading in the right direction! So wise of you to give it time, too!
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