- 7 years ago
- Wedding: September 2014
I very purposely had my Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses not match at all because I wanted them to pick a dress that they were comfortable in and spend an amount that they were comfortable spending on a dress! I gave them a color swatch and said to pick something close, whatever they wanted. I love the look of mismatched BMs, I think the whole “OMG EVERY BRIDESMAID NEEDS TO LOOK THE EXACT SAME” notion is so overdue to die. Especially when your BMs are very different shapes and sizes. But that’s just my opinion and it is obviously not popular since about every single bride still shoves their BMs into the exact same dress for almost every wedding. I think if I could re-do it I would even aim for the “ombre” look so the dresses start dark and get lighter until the bride comes out in white. I don’t know, I just love original ideas for weddings, there are so many “traditions” that are very worn out.
I love it! It’s your day, but you also want to make them all feel comfortable. It’s perfect!
Was there another option fo rthe girl in the halter? From the 3/4 shot in the OP, she doesn’t look great, but maybe from other angles, it works. Halters just often make medium sized and larger girls look bigger.
Good luck. I know this is frustrating!
I see that your BM’s all want straps and long gowns. They all appear comfortable with more of a higher waist and flowy bottom. Why not go from there and pick the one dress that might suit everyone best? You have for to choose from right in front of you. Guessing the spaghetti strap dress wouldn’t be the winner since another Bridesmaid or Best Man needs/wants more support or coverage.
I’d pick the same dress for all 4 since they are already so similar as it is.
At my wedding all the bridesmaids picked whatever style dress they wanted but they were all the same color. I loved it because it was different and they could all be comfortable in the dress they were shelling out the cash for. I say it’s a great idea.
We did mismatched fabrics and styles from David’s, all in Marine (navy blue). Two dresses were satin, one cotton sateen and one jersey. I think they looked fabulous! I couldn’t avoid mismatched fabric, really, because one of my BMs was 5 months pregnant and the only maternity dresses David’s carries are in jersey.
A co-woker just told me that since my wedding is in winter I may get lucky and be married on a cloudy day and if so the photographer should be able to do something with the camera lighting if the dresses are extremely different in color. So that eases my mind.
Thanks so much to everyone that replied with pictures…it really helps! Although I do like uniformity in weddings (especially when they are extremely formal), I am one to be a little bit different here and there and make some type of statement. I think they will look ok since my wedding is semi-formal to formal. Just trying to get my head around the different fabric.
I personally love the look of mismatched dresses quite a bit. Here’s my inspiration for our wedding. We’ll have each of our girls in a different color (mustard, wine, plum, cerulean), and I’ll have olive accessories.
I was okay with my 2 BMs wearing different dresses, but wanted them to be in the same fabric since there was a big difference between the satin and chiffon for that particular designer for the color I liked. It just so happened that they both liked the same dress (though one of them kept it the original tea length, and the other shortened it to the knee). We went to a wedding where the 3 BMs wore navy dresses. They weren’t the same fabric, or even the same designer. Just navy. And they looked fantastic. I think they’ll look great if they are in dresses that best fit their frames. I’m not big on the matchy match look.
I am planning on doing this myself because I don’t want my girls to have to spend money on something I like but they don’t. If I were paying for the dresses myself maybe i’d feel differently, also they all have different body styles. I think having the same fabric is a good idea, but if you don’t just make sure in pictures the girls with the same fabric aren’t standing beside the other. A crazy idea I had was for the girls to all buy white and dye the fabric myself, this could be difficult and risky but if it’s done right I think it would work. Good Luck
Ps. There is no right or wrong choice, your opinon is what matters because your the only one out of that group of girls that is still going to be looking at those pictures in 30 years.
I actually like how your dresses. It is difficult when you can’t see them all in the same color, but I think they’ll go nicely together. For your tattooed Bridesmaid or Best Man, I do like the first dress on her a little better, but the second one looks good, too. (They are very similar, and they’re both very pretty.) Annnd, I hate to suggest this, but in your original post, the bride in the DB’s Style F12732 – did you try that on the girl with tattoos?
I admit, I hate that particular gown (though it does look nice on your girl) – I wore it as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and it was totally wonky on most of us (6 BMs, all in that dress, all different body types – and let me tell you, that dress does NOT look good on everybody). However, it does seem to look good on girls with small chests, AND it may cover up some of her tats.
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