(Closed) Mismatched bridesmaids dress dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I chose four dresses and let my girls pick from those which they liked and they thought best fit them.

Post # 4
4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@candy08:  Maybe have them send you a photo once they pick it. Then you can forward that photo to the remaining BM’s?

Post # 5
1448 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I picked a dress line, color and fabric.  The gals are choosing the dress within those constraints.

ETA: If more than half of them pick the same dress you could just default to that one.

Post # 6
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I had 8 BMs, and 3 of them chose the same dress.  Another 2 of them picked the same dress, and then the other 3 were in different dresses.  All the same David’s Bridal color, but not even all the same fabric.  It ended up being completely ok.  In fact, someone was looking at wedding photos with me and it hit her all of a sudden that the BMs were in different dresses- she hadn’t even noticed at the wedding!

ETA- found a pic & had to cover their faces since I didn’t ask their permission to post it…

Post # 7
1068 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think you can just give them those guidelines — the material and color and state that you’d prefer that either all girls wear the same style or that they all wear different styles.  Then share via the internet (dropbox, email , facebook…) the styles the girls are leaning towards.  I’m sure the your girls will be respectful of what you want and will work something out should two girls want the same dress. 

Post # 8
12 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

My bridesmaids are all buying their dresses off etsy at this site,




This woman custom makes ALL her dresses and all the girls have to do is send her their measurements and she custom fits her dresses to the girls’ measurements. She’s amazing and I was realy pleased with her work. I’ve only seen one bridesmaids dress so far from my bridal party but I’m so excited to see more! Check out the site to see if you like her styles! 

Post # 9
27 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m letting my 4 BMs pick their own dresses. 1 is in Fl, 1 is in VA and 2 are in MD. I went onto http://dessy.com and chose the designer, fabric and color I wanted and told them to pick those options on the side of the site then they could pick from that. It is still three pages of dresses but at least they can all get the same designer in different states but different dresses.

Post # 10
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think you just have to keep tabs on it and tell each girl to let you know which style they plan to get before they purchase to make sure it shakes out……

I was in a wedding recently where we did this with 5 bridesmaids and it ended up that 2 of us wanted the same style, so she had the Maid/Matron of Honor in one style, 2 of us in one style and then had the other 2 left she told to pick a style that they could both wear, so it was 3 styles total. 2-2-1. Worked out! Here is a pic:


I also think most likely whoever your BMs are, you are close enough to them to explain you’re hoping that they all will have a different cut and I’m sure they will be totally willing to make it work and compromise if two BMs do want the same dress.

You could even tell them, “hey ladies, pick TWO dress styles that you like and would be willing to wear.” So then if two of them pick the same dress you have the other one they listed they can be assigned to. 


Post # 14
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@candy08:  Thanks 🙂  I had several very differently shaped BMs, so it was just less dramatic to let them pick based on their own personal style.  Yay for no drama!

Post # 15
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was in a wedding years back where the bride chose a line of seperates for her Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses. She chose the skirt and we picked the top (from any of the 8 or so available in that line). It was pretty much first come first serve. Once on of us found a local store to order from we told her our style number to “reserve” it. This worked fine. Granted there were only three of us. 

Post # 16
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think the only way it would look silly is if just one girl who was not the Maid/Matron of Honor picked a different dress.


What I mean is, if 4 pick one dress, and 2 pick another then it would look fine.  Just not 5 pick one dress and one picks a different one
This sounds like an issue of wait and see which dress they choose.  I would also put restrictions on the length….I am/was more worried about that when my girls picked a black dress.  I told them it had to be knee length or longer. 

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