(Closed) Mismatched bridesmaids dresses help!!!!

posted 8 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1524 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@txlolo:  My wedding isn’t until next weekend but I allowed my girls to pick out their own dresses.  I chose to favorite a ton of dresses on Modcloth and let my girls choose whichever one they liked best.  Two of my girls ended up having to get their dresses elsewhere but it still worked out.  I’ve received some flack, and I worry a bit about how they will look in photos, but I really like them!

Here is the link to a post that shows all their dresses:


Post # 4
3696 posts
Sugar bee

@txlolo:  My bridesmaids and I are all in different cities, so we mostly sent a bunch of links and pictures back and forth via email and everyone came up with something that they liked, that fit their bodies and their budgets and more or less coordinated with what the others were doing. There was quite a bit of back-and-forth before they decided, and it felt a little bit crazy at one point, but all in all it was pretty painless – and everyone is happy with what they are wearing! That’s the most important part as far as I’m concerned.

I’ve seen other threads on WB that talk about how it can be helpful to set a few predetermined guidelines (i.e. decide on the same length, decide that everyone should have matte fabrics, or shiny fabrics, or chiffon, or solid colors, etc.) depending on how mismatched vs. coordinated you want it to be. I didn’t do that, but I did ask to see a pic of the dress everyone chose before they pulled the trigger, and that worked out fine.

Post # 5
4674 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have two BM’s, 2 jr BM’s and a Flower girl.  I’m planning on making the younger girls dresses, and gave the older girls a swatch of fabric to ‘shoot’ for when looking for a dress.  I also gave them some basic rules; short, noting too shiney, more casual.  They both went shopping on their own and picked one out. I only asked that they send me a pic of it either right before, or after purchasing it to ‘approve’ it.  But I honestly had no intention of vetoing any of their choices.  

Post # 6
3470 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA

All of my ladies are wearing different dresses– basically I showed each of them the color schemes, and told them what each was thinking (it’s a long story, but none of them talk to eachother very well…) and they are all wearing something completely different that ties into the main theme.  My sister, my Maid/Matron of Honor is wearing a chocolate colored dress, one Bridesmaid or Best Man is wearing a navy dress, and the 3rd gal hasn’t picked her’s yet, but is considering a silvery blue prom dress that she will have altered to fit the event. 

My only rule was no clevage (it’s a pet peeve of mine when ladies are falling out).  So far I’ve been very happy with their selections and I think it’ll look great in the photos.  The guys are all wearing slacks, and a solid colored dress shirt. 

Post # 7
1423 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I’m giving my BMs a choice of 20 dresses to choose from, with different color options (different shades of purple) and they can choose whatever they want. I’m e-mailing them the options so they can order them online.

Post # 8
1659 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I wanted them to wear a floral dress, no black. I made a polyvore board to show he idea and listed a bunch of dresses from modcloth, asos, karmaloop, whatever. People sent me photos as they shopped – omg they are soooo cute! If you’re looking for something more cohesive, find like 15-20 dresses that fit your vision interchangeably and tell them they need to choose from those. 

Post # 9
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I have 3 mismatched dresses. I tried to keep it to a coral colour, similar length and neckline. I’m also going to ensure that they wear their hair up and also have the same gold/nude belt or gold/nude shoes. Finally, I’m going to keep their bouquets simple with baby’s breath, so the flowers won’t distract from the dresses.

I think if you are giving them free reign over the dresses, it’s important to control the other stuff, so it doesn’t look too messy.


Here are my dresses. Last one knee length too, image too big!



Post # 10
3196 posts
Sugar bee

I let them choose their own dresses. I told them that it should be black, knee length and a flowy (non-satin/silk/spandex) fabric, but other than that they could pick the cut and style. My mom also made them their own jewelry to match their personalities and they picked out their own shoes. They all bought their dress at different times/places and without seeing the others, but I think it turned out great!





Post # 11
3175 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I just told them to wear charcoal. For accessories, I requested nude shoes & told them to wear whatever jewelry they wanted. I thought they looked great, but I’m biased πŸ˜›

Post # 13
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@txlolo:  For pictures try pinterest or search the boards. Eventhough you don’t want them to match, you need to figure out what look you are going for and what will make them cohesive. I think that they work out best when they have all the same hem length so you can decide that first long? short? tea?

Then you can decide how they are going to coordinate

  • be different colors of the same style – choose one dress that comes in a range of colors that you like and assign them each a different color
  • be the same exact color and material but different styles – you will want to choose a designer that you like and let them choose a dress from that range
  • be shades of the same color but different styles – they can choose from different designers

The first two are more straight forward, but you will still need to decide what color and what kind of fabric and that they all have the same feel. Of course if the reasoning is that they will be able to buy dresses at different price points it is not true for the first two.

The third will take much more planning. I choose this route because my one of my bridesmaids could not afford the expense of a traditional bridesmaids dress. What I did was create a pinterest board of dresses that fit the color, length, material options, and general style that I was looking for. I do think that you should still decide all of that, otherwise you may end up with one girl in a satin dress next to a girl in a cotton dress and they won’t look like they belong at the same event.

I haven’t had my wedding yet so I’m not sure how it turned out, but one of my maids had a very hard time with it. I don’t really know why, but she asked if a short dress she found would work when I explicitly said floor length then she asked about a light blue dress when I said gray. In the end she did find a dress although not exactly what I would have choosen it does fit the parameters I set.


Post # 14
522 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

my  bridesmaids picked their dresses and I had no idea what they would be wearing. just the color scheme I gave them, of course πŸ™‚ the looked Fabulous! I posted a couple pics on my recap, you can scroll down on the first page if you want to take a look πŸ™‚


Post # 15
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i asked my Maid/Matron of Honor and bridesmaids to at least get all the same fabric, same length and same color but they may pick out there own styles cause thay are all very different in shape and wont look right in the same dress.


So far so good πŸ™‚

Post # 16
92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I was in a wedding last winter. Directions were to stick within a specific color palette, and length.  Bride wanted warm tones of brown, cream, and champagne.  Then she slected one person (which ended up being me based on my skintone) to wear a dress that tied all the colors together. 


Here is a pic of the “inspiration photo” she sent us.




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