(Closed) Mismatched his/hers wedding bands

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3063 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am a huge yellow gold lover and my fiance prefers the look of tungsten. My ring is a very feminine yellow gold bezel eternity while his is really manly tungsten with a brushed finish. Very mismatched. Although I would have preferred our metals match in the long run it really doesn’t matter and if he likes his ring then I am happy! 🙂

Post # 4
2622 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would venture to say I dont know anyone with matching rings. Usually the girl gets a band to match her Ering,.

Mine is platinum with channel set diamonds in a 3/4 eternity. His is a plain gold comfort band.

Post # 5
288 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I think matching rings is a sweet concept, but it’s not for everyone. Mine’s a plain platinum band, and his is titanium and carbon fiber. They both suit us, and that’s more important than them matching each other!

Post # 6
44 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

I was searching for the same answer!  I am very traditional and almost always wear yello gold.  It was a pain to find non-gaudy looking golf rings in jewelry stores, but the Fiance finally succeeded.  🙂  While he loves the yellow gold for me, but wants something more modern like tungsten for himself.

I agree that it is more important to get rings that you love and suit you than to get matching ones.  That one wedding day picture will likely be the only time anyone even notices they are different!


Post # 7
501 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My husband and I have bands that do not match. We both agreed that we each should wear what we like. I can assure you, no one ever says to the guy, OMG! Let me see your ring!!

Post # 8
1092 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Funny story.  My friends got married about eight years ago, and the bride mentioned to her father that she wanted her wedding band to be channel set blue shapphires and diamonds. Her father, in a moment of generosity, bought their wedding bands for them. And guess what her hubby got? Yep. Matching channel set diamonds and sapphires.  Her father just couldn’t fathom why the wedding bands wouldn’t match and assumed they’d already talked about it. To his credit, her husband wears his blingy wedding band to this day.

That said, Fiance and I will not have matching bands. Mine is a 5 stone platinum band using diamonds from my grandmother, his is a plain Tungsten band.  Tungsten was a good choice for him because it’s durable and cheap- a matching platinum band in his size would’ve run us into the thousands of dollars.

Post # 9
7561 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

I don’t think they have to match. He’s going to wear his ring everyday, don’t you want him to love it as much as you love your ring? They’ll only be compared at the wedding, but no one will likely notice after that. 

Post # 10
1079 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Ours match but it was more of a coincidence than something that we actually planned.  Had we not had the same preference for color/material, we would have gotten whatever made each of us happy.

Post # 11
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I really wanted us to have matching bands too. I realize now that we are two totally different people with unique tastes. I picked something with scrolls & leaves and milgrain and he wanted someting plain with a pop of colour and light weight. Titanium suited him better and gold worked for me.

Post # 12
4419 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

@manduhx01:  My mom and dad’s rings are not the same color gold.  Dad’s is yellow gold and Mom’s is white gold.  I don’t see any problem with it.  After all, after the wedding day, no one really looks at your rings at the same time. 

Post # 13
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Another possiblity is looking into some sort of matching design motif. My fiance and I purchased our bands online from Etsy, and we both went with something with an infinity motif. Our designs are very different (his is big and manly and titanium and mine dainty and gold) but they still match, in a way.


Post # 14
1748 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

To me, if by chance the rings match…then okay, but I think it’s kind of silly to insist on them matching, especially since, while I love FI’s taste, it’s very manly, and not what I want on my finger.

Post # 15
6741 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

None of my friends’ bands match each other.  The girl usually gets a band that matches her e-ring and the guy gets a ring he likes – he is going to have to wear it every day for the rest of his life (he better!!!), right?  So, just like us girls want an e-ring we love b/c we have to wear it every day for the rest of our lives, same goes for the guy. Don’t worry about the rings not matching!

Post # 16
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I was debating this, because most people I know have gone for the traditional his and hers matching ring sets. However, he prefers yellow gold and I like white gold, silver or platinum. Also, my e ring is platinum.

To be honest, we may well choose almost identical rings but in different colours. The alternative would be for me to get an eternity ring, but I’m totally in two minds because I’m worried it would be too blingy. I’ll ask his opinion at some stage and probably allow myself to be swayed by what he feels. Either way though, my ring will be silver in colour and his will be gold.

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