(Closed) Misophonia sufferers and Audiologists… please read….

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@MissMudge:  I have an issue with the sound of scraping ice. Like it almost makes me queasy… but it’s not as serious as it is with you. I’d probably start with a GP and see what specialists they recommend. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I HATE the sound of people chewing. My parents even offered to take my to a psychologist when I was younger. I wish I’d taken them up on it. For the most part, I’ve just gotten better at handling it, but I will still plan my day/meal/activities to avoid hearing those sounds, and I rarely go to the movies because people think it’s required to shove popcorn AT their mouths and see what sticks and it’s so.damn.loud. I can’t concentrate, like have-to-stop-conversations can’t concentrate when there are chewing sounds. I totally judge strangers based on how they eat and get irrationally mad at others when they eat loudly (not even rudely, just loudly).

So, with that, I offer no advice, but seriously, if you solve this problem, please let me know…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it does sound like misophonia (don’t want to play doctor internet though). It is apparently quite common in people with anxiety. I have OCD and anxiety and I also have this – for me the irritating sounds are people sniffing, flicking their nails, chewing or hearing music through people’s headphones. Like, irritating to the point where I find myself fantasising about slapping them or screaming at them.

Honestly, I think a psychologist would be helpful in teaching you some coping strategies to deal with the irritation you feel. I don’t know if there is a cure for the actual misophonia (I haven’t found it yet!) but I find coping strategies to be pretty effective in helping me deal with the irrational anger I get when I hear these noises. And it’s stopped me from screaming at FI “Just effing FINISH EATING ALREADY” when his chewing sounds are driving me insane.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow.  I didn’t know there was a name for this.  My mom does it too!  Neither of us can stand hearing people smack their gum.  Can’t stand when people chew with their mouth open.  Sometime heavy breathing pisses me off, and I know that sounds so awful!  I just thought I was odd, so as strange as it sounds OP, thanks for this thread.  I’ll try not to rag on my poor FI about his chewing (though it does have a tendency to make him laugh).

As for it being accompanied by anxiety, I have something called Trichotillomania.  I stopped seeing doctors for it because interns would get really excited and ask painfully embarrassing questions.  Meds didn’t work, forms of meditation do help though.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissMudge: Yes. I’m sorry to say that I know exactly what you are talking about. Alright, I was diagnosed about two years ago with a general anxiety disorder with agoraphobia. Long story short, my anxiety got so severe that I could not leave my room (I was in college at the time). My anxiety was general, but it got most severe in social situations. Part of this was (I found out later) misphonia. 

 

Being in a room, or sometimes even a house with someone eating crunchy foods is hell. It extends to other things, sometime things that never bothered me before.  Like you said, it fills me with complete, irrational rage. Chips, apples, nuts, anything crunchy. But especially chips. Something about the opening of that stupid metallic bag, and then the rustling while they reach their hand in and then the chewing.. It used to send me into a blind fury. Crying, shaking, heart racing – sometimes I would get so angry that I would grab the bag and throw it.  My parents (wrongly) thought that it was a control issue and they used to make me sit with them while they and my sisters ate chips. Don’t even get me started on that. 

 

There is a difference between hating/being bothered by a sound and having misphonia. It seems silly to explain it to others, but your feelings/reaction is completely valid and explainable. It is also treatable. Taking a daily low dose of an anti-anxiety did wonders for me, as did a support group and therapy to teach me coping mechanisms. Sometimes just speaking to a psychiatrist helps because they can give you the validation you need to stop feeling silly and start getting better. 

 

Before I was on medication, I snapped in the middle of a lecture and screamed at a girl across the room who was picking/chewing on her nails. It was more of a blood curling scream while making eye contact, I couldn’t produce words. I have also torn a clock off the wall to make it stop. And I am normally a very reserved, amiable person. Don’t let it get to the point that you absolutely cannot control yourself when you face it. I ended up having to drop out of college for a time – not just due to the misphonia but because I was crippled by general anxiety. Go early. 

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Wow, I never realised this was actually something…people eating really irritates me as well and I just thought it was me being generally annoyed. The other day my friend was around eating sweets and it just bugged me so much. I tend to find eating at the same time helps to stop the irritation because it means I can’t hear it…not good for trying to not gain weight!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee

the Kit Kat commercial drives me NUTS – I have to hit Mute for that ad spot. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

You might try a CBT. I find eating noises incredibly irritating as well. I had a neck injury, and as a result certain sounds were so painful for me I would yelp, like wax paper, chip bags, squeaky brakes..etc.

 

Post # 14
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@FromA2B2013:  I call it “defensive eating” and I totally do that when others are eating and it’s driving me crazy.

 

@fascinated:  I scream and mute it. If I dont have the remote, I cover my ears and sing. Even DH knows to mute it for me.

Post # 15
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Worker bee

I know exactly what you mean. My sister and I self-diagnosed ourselves with it. The worst part about it is the fact that wth most of my triggers, the closer you are to me, the more angry I get. A stranger eating chips, annoying, but in most cases I can deal. My dad eating chips? oh hell no, I almost lose it. Some triggers, like gum, scratching, or slurping, I see red no matter who it is. It’s like this uncontrollable rage from within. 

I have gotten to the point that I have a hard time being in public places like the mall or especially the movies. I swear I can hear someone chewing gum from 1000 feet away. Even if they are chewing quietly, the threat and anxiety about the possiblity that they are going to make some noise is too much to handle.

On the other end of the spectrum, I also experience ASMR, (auto sensory meridian response) which is pretty much the opposite of misophonia. It’s a super relaxing, brain-tingling response to certain sounds. 

It drives me crazy to have both because sometimes one person will trigger my misophonia with one sound but a different person can trigger my ASMR  with the same sound. It makes no sense. 

If they would make some sort of treatment for misophonia, I would jump at the chance to get rid of it. It is the number one thing that rules my life. I worry about events that should be fun because of it. I’m already debating having a ‘No gum’ sign at my wedding. sigh. What can ya do?

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