(Closed) Misplaced anxiety?

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

You’re not overreacting. It may not be an affair, but you’re still entitled to your feelings. I would be upset too if my husband talked more to his female work friend than he did to me. He should prioritize your feelings and your marriage over this other woman. Talk to him and tell him what is really bothering you (sounds like the lack of communication and focusing more on her than you). Don’t accuse him of anything, just let him know how this behavior makes you feel and what you need from him. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

It’s nothing.  He has been her friend for a long time and he is still her friend.  Her PLATONIC friend.  I have a work friend who I talk to a LOT.  He knows my husband and my husband knows him.  We bicker like we are married sometimes…I even call him my “work husband”…but it’s ALL platonic.  I’m betting she’s going through a hard time with her husband being sick.  This is not an affair.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

You have every right to feel the way you feel.  If what he is talking to this lady about is work then all is okay. however, friend or not, he should not be talking to another woman on the phone. period. it is inappropriate. sorry if this is old fashioned, i dont care. i am sorry her husband is ill. but she needs to find someone else besides a married man who is not her relative to find comfort. its wrong and disrespectful.  and be honest, if you feel the need to talk to him about this relationship, there are feelings of mistrust. i know i would have them.  dont let his show of anger deminish your feelings. that is called manipulation. and it is wrong. i dont recommend being hateful or disrespectful to him but obviously some new ground rules need to be laid down. I can 100%  promise you that should the tables be turned, he would feel as you are feeling.  if you have a minister, i would suggest talking with your minister with the two of you.

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