(Closed) Misplaced or stolen cards? How to handle communication with guests

posted 4 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - City, State

Honestly, I don’t think that addressing everyone and saying “it’s come to our attention that cards/gifts may have been stolen from our reception”, and trying to get a general count of who gave something and who didn’t is rude. If my check I gave you had been stolen, I’d sure as hell want to know.

Not only are you trying to protect your guests who gave gifts/money from losing out/having their hard earned money in someone elses hands, but I wouldn’t want whomever stole from you to get away with this.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - City, State

 

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pais22 :  I agree. I think a mass email would be best.

“To our friends and family,
It has come to our attention that some gifts/cards have been stolen from our wedding.
We are in contact with (venue name) and our wedding coordinator to figure out what has happened, but we are in need of your help to track down just how many gifts were stolen. We want to protect your hard earned, and gracious gift, and to make sure that whomever is responsible for this does not get away with it.

A few of you have reached out to us concerned that your check has not cleared yet. If you have given us a gift/check, and you have not received a thank you, or the check has not cleared, please reach out to us as soon as possible. “

Something along those lines? From your post it seems like you havent actually sent the thank you’s yet so maybe edit that out? I’d put in more details like perhaps speaking with the bank or whatever steps you and your husband are taking next.

 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - City, State

 

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pais22 :  Youre welcome, sweetie! Best of luck!

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That is terrible. I’m sorry that happened. I second PPs about sending a mass email.

The person who stole the cards probably won’t try cash the checks as they are traceable and harder to do. They stole the cards for the cash in them or giftcards. If your guests tell you they gave you a card with cash money I would tell them that you got it because it puts them in the awkward position of  them thinking of having to  regift you more money. 

Sorry again bee. That is so shitty a situation and I can’t believe someone would steal wedding envelopes. 

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