(Closed) Miss Attitude Future Niece-in-Law

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 91
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2016 - Surfer\'s Beach, Grand Cayman

I think this a really good time to reflect on the old saying “it’s the thought that counts”, she was thanking you for the thought, not the monetary value and that’s how it really should be.

Her thank you may have seemed lackluster but I know a lot of teens feel awkward in situations like that, I have seen many teenaged relatives say thank you to gifts in a similar manner. Just remember that you can’t hold a teenager to the same standards as you would an adult when it comes to their behavior, as they are still developing. I think she actually handled the situation with grace and maturity.

Post # 92
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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wannabmrsp:  well, I can defintiely appreciate that and I truly hope you’re as sincere as that sounds. We all make mistakes, say things we don’t mean, do things out of anger/frustration that we wouldn’t normally do. Lord knows I have! I think these boards have made me skeptical and I tend to act like a bitter old shrew sometimes always questioning people’s intent on the internet. Your OP rubbed me the wrong way (as it’s been overly pointed out) but the quick turn around just seemed odd to me. I’ve seen a lot of bee’s post stuff and immediately change everything (including relevant facts) to make themselves sound better once people call them out on it. Not gonna lie, I posted once when I first joined and got ripped a new one and just sat there like a deer in head lights until I deleted the post. I never lied or changed direction to stop bee’s from hating, but I can understand why a lot of people would. So I’m glad if you’ve genuinely recognized your errors and I’m glad it’s made you apologize to your neice. 

Best of luck! Sorry for the harshness 😉 I’m a crabby bee sometimes.

Post # 93
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Worker bee

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wannabmrsp:  Teenagers are just the worst. I have a bitchy niece also, she’s 13 and thinks she invented the world! You can’t let them get to you. Hopefully one day many years from now she will be a productive member of society and learn how to act. At the end of the day she is a kid and you are an adult, buy the gift and be lucky you got the half hearted thank you. 

Post # 94
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

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wannabmrsp:  “feel free to thank your uncle..etc” is kind of passive aggressive and I can see why a little brat would respond in such a way. her response could’ve been better but you could have also put your words into a better way as you are the adult in the situation! I would think “hey, did you buy anything at store xyz with the gift card? We knew it was your favorite” would’ve been a much better approach then the text you sent. But all is done now, going forward realize you are the adult and should act accordingly. 

Post # 95
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Blushing bee

My family is all boys, I would have LOVED to have a niece!  

Maybe for a gift you could get her a certificate to a hair or nail place that is trendy and go together? Go shopping, out to see a movie. 15 year olds can get attitude with adults but they don’t tend to be bratty with adults that make them feel their thoughts and opinions are valid. Don’t talk to her like she’s just a kid. 

 

I loved when my older sister or cousins would take me to concerts (U2!) that I wouldn’t be allowed to go to on my own. Lots of ideas. Be her friend. 

 

Also, keep in mind, even girls in a stable 2 parent household can tend to get moody sometimes. So many hormones and EVERYTHING is such a huge deal at that age.  I remember being that age and even my Mom just asking how my schoolday was would get a sullen “fine” while I slinked off to my room and I’m perfectly delightful today lol! 

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