Post # 16
I had a natural miscarriage at your age. The baby died around 7 weeks and I passed the baby at just over 13.
Personally I wish I’d done the d&c because the miscarriage was very painful and traumatic. I lost the baby in the middle of a crowded street several hours from home. Luckily was wearing a long coat or it would have been blindingly obvious to every passerby (I was wearing a massive pad but it was nothing like enough).
People seem to have wildly different experiences, but I would never want to risk that again.
Post # 17
- Wedding: September 2017 - California
I am so sorry for your loss. I think each option has its problems. I have had both a D&C and a natural miscarriage this year. I think the D&C gave me peace of mind because I didn’t need to wait around not knowing when it would happen. That was the pro. The con was I think the D&C thinned our my lining and my periods were short and light after that which made me concerned that something was wrong. My RE (not the doctor who performed by D&C) did an HSG and also measured my lining and said I don’t have a lining issue though, it still bugs me that my cycles changed and it does concern me regardless. Anyway, RE recommended against me having a second D&C to avoid any potential scarring with my second miscarriage so I waited it out. The wait was worse than the actual miscarriage. From the time I saw a faint heartbeat until the time the heartbeat was finally gone was about 4 weeks and I miscarried are home a couple of days after that last ultrasound. In my case, it was not too painful and the sac and placenta came out in tact. Other than those obvious differences, it was like a heavy period (which surprises me because it seems like that is not the case for many women). I was able to take the samples in for testing, which gave me some answers (chromosomal abnormalities).
Post # 18
- Wedding: September 2017 - California
Forgot to add that I miscarried my second at 11 weeks, but the embryo never grew more than to the size of where an embryo would normally be at 6 weeks, so that probably explains why my MC wasn’t as bad as it would have been if the embryo had measured 11 weeks. Hope that clarifies things and helps a bit, as my impression is that the size of the embryo or fetus is very relevant.
Post # 19
I’m sorry to hear you are going through this, as I know how hard it is. I know you don’t want to go the natural route, but it might be easier to deal with in the long run. I was 3 months in when I had my miscarriage. I chose to do it naturally as opposed to having a d&c. I personally couldn’t have lived with myself if I had anything to do with ridding my body of my baby. If this is what was meant to be then I felt it better for it to happen on it’s own, in it’s own time. The loss was hard and the contractions were painful and lasted an entire day, but my mind was at ease knowing this is the way it was supposed to be. I’m so sorry that you have to go through this.
Post # 20
Hi, OP. I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this. I just went through an MMC, too — first U/S at 9.5 weeks showed that baby stopped developing around 7 weeks. I waited until 11 weeks but nothing happened, and I needed it to be “over,” so I could begin to heal emotionally.
I opted for miso at my OB’s urging. I’ve had two miscarriages now (no living children) and she seemed concerned about the (very slight) risk of scarring. The misoprostol did work very well for me, but I can’t say it was a good experience. It was extremely painful, and yes, passing “tissue” at home is either therapeutic or traumatic. Or maybe a little bit of both.
I guess I’m happy I did the misoprostol. But if I end up in this situation again, I’ll probably opt for the D&C. Whatever you choose, I hope it goes safely and smoothly, and I hope your next pregnancy (should you decide to try again) ends in a healthy, full term babe. 💚 Take care of yourself.
Post # 21
Thank you for the new comments ladies. I’m so sorry you all had to go through this. My D&C is scheduled for next Tuesday but I just started bleeding.
I’m strangely relieved about this because after all my research, I really would prefer the miscarriage to go through naturally. With the D&C, there is the risk of scarring and placenta accreta for following pregnancies. And I am scared of going under general anesthesia. I’m also relieved because the waiting and wondering is finally over and I can start focusing on a new beginning.
My OB suggested to take the Miso once I start bleeding at period force for everything to pass faster and to avoid bleeding too much. So I might do that tomorrow. I have a preop appointment with my OB surgeon on Monday and we’ll see how much I passed until then. At the moment I feel like I want to at least postpone the operation and maybe I can get away without it.
If I had a D&C, my midwife recommended to wait 3 cycles before trying again, so the uterus can heal completely. With a natural miscarriage I only would have to wait 1 cycle. I’m 38 and want to start trying again ASAP. So that’s another advantage of not doing a D&C.
My hormone levels still must be kind of high as I’m still nauseated. Hopefully it will drop back to 0 once everything has passed.
Post # 22
- Wedding: December 2017 - City, State
sunnyorchid : I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I hope that everything progresses as smoothly as possible for you, and that you can move forward soon. Do whatever you need to take good care of yourself. Sending lots of positive thoughts your way. <3
Post # 23
I was also told to wait one cycle before trying again, which I did. But then I found out that it was only so dating a future pregnancy was easier and not for health reasons. As an older person, if I’d known that before I wouldn’t have waited – you probably don’t need to unless you want to.
I’m sorry this is happening but glad to hear it will soon be over and can start healing. All the best.
Post # 24
My first miscarriage was a missed miscarriage at 12w. I was given pills but was losing too much blood so they decided on a D&C. The procedure was fine but the whole experience was quite traumatic as up until I started heavily bleeding, we had no signs that anything was amiss.
My second miscarriage – they found no heartbeat at 5w or 8w so it was decided as unviable. We discussed at length about what I should do. I was worried about scarring but I have a toddler and a husband that travels a lot for work, so I didn’t want to just wait it out and have the potential of suddenly losing a large amount of blood and needing to get to hospital and not knowing what to do with my daughter. The Misoprostol hadn’t worked the first time. So I chose a D&C and had about as positive experience as possible. The anaesthetic felt wonderful for my sleep deprived self.