(Closed) Missing FI during the holidays, Military Wives Help!!!

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

To answer your question if it gets easier, in my opinion, yes and no. lol  It gets easier in the sense that you learn how to adjust.  You find out what distractions work the best, how to do w/ the distance, etc.  On the flipside, no, it doesn’t get easier because being away from them is always hard! 

I found that the deployent got easier as the time passed because it was a done deal.  He was deployed.  End of story.  You deal with it and move on.  However, when he was stateside and there was the constant training schedules, staff duty, time in the field, etc. that was hard b/c it seemed he was always leaving rather than just being gone all in one time.  Does that make sense? lol

I do understand how hard it is.  Especially around the holidays.  I would write my Darling Husband a letter everytime I wanted to have a conversation with him, but couldn’t.  It helped and he loved receiving a ton of letters when he got back or in the mail.

If you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me.  I’ve been there and can sympathize with you!

Post # 4
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am not a military wife but a Fiance and being away from him is one of the hardest thing I am dealing with. My Fiance has been injured and for 3 months I hadnt heard from him. The information I received was he was unconscious for 2 months because he suffered head and leg injuries. I did get a chance to speak to him for about 5 mins in which he told me that the is doing better. He was scheduled to return to the US September 30th 2012 but he was attacked September 18th. His deployments was suppose to end then but now he has no idea when he is coming home. This is his last tour and his intentions are to put in his retirement papers.

I have not put up any decorations nor do I plan on it only makes me more depressed and I am determine to go through my days as if they are like any other (no holidays). I have not reached out for any Army support because I have felt snubbed because I am not a wife. I am okay with not being apart of it if it means that I am made to feel less than.

I just pray to Jesus Christ that he is able to come home safe and sound and we can move on with our lives




Post # 7
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Aw!  Hugs to you!  I’m a future military wife (and former military) and Fiance has been gone since last March (he comes home tomorrow, yay!).  I tried to put up the tree this year but failed miserably.  The darn tree was in a box in the attic and was way too heavy for me to get down with the ladder!  So, I put up the pre-lit garland on the stair bannisters and hung up our stockings and lit yummy holiday candles instead!  :-p  Over time, you will get used to the schedules and him being away for extended periods of time.  Always missing him, but better able to adjust to the changes and making your own routines.  Good luck!

Post # 8
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My fiance just started his innactive duty but we have been together through it all and it does get easier. The first deployment was the hardest becuase I had no idea how to handle it. The second wasn’t so bad and the progressively get easier. It’s all worth it when they come home ๐Ÿ™‚

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