Missing my best friend- Advice please.

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
10028 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Sounds like she isn’t interested in being friends with you despite what she told your cousin. I’d let it go.

Post # 4
1056 posts
Bumble bee

I went through something very similar. I missed my BFF so much. But she kept blowing me off and telling me she was so busy, but then on Facebook there would be pictures of her at parties. It hurt. I finally decided to just stop contacting her, and figured if she wanted to see me she could text or phone. 6 months went by. SIX months. She called before my wedding and asked if I really wanted her there. I said I did and we had a good talk. She said she’d come. But she didn’t. 

It hurt like hell. She was my best friend. I haven’t spoken to her since (3+ years)  and I still miss her. But its gotten better and easier. I was so tired of being blown off and lied to. The friendship was so one sided, I feel I didn’t deserve that. 

I had a hard time getting over it. What really helped me was writing her a letter to get my feelings out. I didn’t send it, I shredded it after. But just to get those feelings put really helped me. It was probably a whole year until I finally accepted it was over and I stopped thinking about her so much. 

You’ll get through it!

Post # 6
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I had a similar situation happen with my bff of 15 years. I won’t bore you with the details because it’s pretty long. All I’m going to say is, it gets better overtime. It hurts and you miss all the good times you had together but if she is not making the effort to actually be your friend, it’s not worth trying to make an effort on your end. People can be awful trust me I know, for the past couple of years my bff was treating me like shit but I pushed it aside because it wasn’t always the case. Don’t deal with the drama. It makes you miserable and makes you second guess everything. Move on. In the long run, you will realize you made the right choice. 

Post # 7
1253 posts
Bumble bee

myardley :  

I am a firm believer that if someone wants to be part of you’re life they will make an effort.

Seems to me that she’s not intrested in being you’re friend.

My own personal story:

I had a best friend all through elementary & highschool. She started distancing herself from me and ended up sleeping with my ex-boyfriend they now have a child together & I’m married to my Darling Husband.

In the end when someone is moving away from you let them. It’s (my belief) that god is moving them for a reason.

Post # 8
1056 posts
Bumble bee

myardley :  Im sorry you’re going through it too. I really do think it’s best to just let the friendship fade. Her behaviour isn’t going to get better. You deserve better. 

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