Post # 1
I was super close with my grandmother; she taught me to read, I spent every afternoon after school with her, and she always had a lap for me to curl up in and cry if I needed to. (Even when I was 18 and way too big for that kind of stuff) She passed away almost two years ago. So I’ve had plenty of time to heal. BUT….
I’m the Maid/Matron of Honor in my best friends wedding, and we went on her first dress shopping extravaganza! It was so much fun! It was me, her and her grandmother. And as awesome as everything was, I left kinda sad realizing that my grandmother won’t be able to go shopping with me. I feel like a big baby, but I really wish I could have my grandma back.
Post # 3
I know what you mean. My grandmother was awesome and I too am sad she will not be there on my big day. Maybe you can honor your grandma in a special way at the ceremony? I’m having one single gardenia placed on the first pew next to where my parents are sitting. Gardenias were my grandmother’s favorite flower so for me, it’s as though she is there watching in spirit.
Post # 4
Awww. All I can say is I’m sorry! 🙁 I agree with Ms iPhone-honor her somehow with a single flower, a memorial candle or having a remembrance section in the program.
Post # 5
Hugs. I totally feel your pain. My grandma died 7 years ago when we weren’t expecting it and my grandpa died tlast November after a 2 year battle with cancer. Watching him suffer was the most painful that I’ve ever done in my life. My Fiance proposed 2 weeks after he died and I was (and still am) so sad that he won’t be at my wedding. There are still times I break down bawling because of how important he was to me and my entire family. Hang in there and know that you’re making your grandma proud.
Post # 6
I completely feel your pain. My grandpa died 4 1/2 yrs ago and its still hard. I’m blessed that my grandma is still with us but there’s definitely still a void. My grandpa would have been the one to walk me down the aisle which makes it even harder. I plan on tying a locket to my bouquet in rememberence but I definitely couldn’t do the flower on a chair as it would just be too hard for me. I find comfort in this song lyric from a Snow Patrol song “Even if you can not hear my voice I’ll be right beside you dear” Good Luck and remember she’s always there and its okay to be a baby about it sometimes, I am too 🙂
Post # 7
i’m so sorry, i had grandparent issues as well. i was only able to have one grandparent at the wedding, my other grandparents were either too ill to make it or passed away. i felt awful for my husband who didn’t have any grandparents there. we did many different things to honor them; i wore my grandma’s gold bracelet, we used a tallis (prayer shawl) from each of our grandpa’s to cover our chuppah (wedding canopy), we used wedding pictures from parents, grandparents, greatgrandparents, etc. for our table numbers. my grandma who was there saw her picture (i put it at her table) and cried (happy tears), she was supposed to be married to my grandpa for 64 years a week before the wedding, but he passed a while ago.
Post # 8
I relate to your feelings all too well… My grandmother passed away last year and I cant help but feel somethign so large “missing” from all of this happiness… I think of how much my grandmother and my fiancee would have adored each other and joked and loved…it breaks my heart I wont be able to dance with her and give her this joy.
I’m working on getting creative to incorporate some things into my wedding as well. She used to cover her hair in synagogue with these lace doilies that I’m going to wrap my bouquet in. I’m so thrilled to have my hands wrapped around those throughout the ceremony… almost like holding her hand. I will also be using my grandfathers prayer shawl (talis) as my chuppah… I’m still thinking of ways to incorporate them more, but I know that they’re joyful whereever they are!!
Wishing you love and comfort. Know how happy she’d be for you right now! Try to imagine her laugh and her hug! Let them be a source of encouragement and pride for you rather than getting you down!!!