(Closed) missing my mom

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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5095 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Oh gosh, I’m so sorry.  That is just heartbreaking.  My only advice is to just give yourself permission to feel the way you feel.  I don’t think there is any way to speed the grieving process.

If you can, check in regularly with your little sibs, too – I’m sure they will need a lot of support right now. If they’re still minors, do they have a good guardian?

Post # 4
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I cant offer you any advice as I have not gone through this but please know we are always here for you and I am so sorry you are going through this, I cant imagine what you must be feeling but know that your mother would want you to carry on and have the best wedding you can have, *hugs*

Post # 5
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3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

O hun, I’m so sorry. I can’t even imagine what you are going through. My father, who I was so close with, passed away suddenly 4 years ago. My mother and I don’t get along, so I’ve been largely planning my wedding on my own anyway. But I know it’s not the same, as I have sisters close in age that I was able to grieve with, and because you don’t have either parent available to you at all. 

I really, really wish I had some good advice for you. But know that you are stronger than you can even imagine. You will get through this, and although you will NEVER not miss your mom and it will NEVER be easy to be without her, you’ll get through it with the help of friends and your Fiance. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time if you have to. Cry when you need to (don’t hold it in), and know that although Fiance can’t understand what you’re going through, he’s your Fiance for a reason and has a great shoulder to cry on. When you get overwhelmed with everything, take a step back and do something you love to do (read, go outside, see a movie, go dancing). Remember also that it’s ok to be happy when you want to laugh. 

((Hugs))

Post # 6
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1963 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m so sorry to hear of your mom. It’s ok to miss her during wedding planning and on your wedding day. I lost my mom about 5 years ago now and there are definnately still some tough moments. So far I have just tried to anticipate when the worst moments might be and surround myself with supports for those times. I made sure that my wedding party consists of the type of people that I can tell when something is making me sad. You can do this! Just make sure you giveyourself time to havefeelings when you need to!

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