Post # 1
My mom passed away 8 days before Christmas this past year. We had a HUGE falling out a month before she passed away. And when I say huge, I mean huge. I told her she wasn’t invited to my wedding, and she told me to never speak to her, call her or write her again. That was the last thing she said to me and the last thing I said to her was that she wasn’t invited to my wedding.
Well fastforward and now it’s two days before my wedding. I’m having a hard time dealing with my mom not being at my wedding. A brida is supposed to have her mother there with her getting ready and putting her dress on. Thank goodness I have an amazing Future Mother-In-Law but it’s not the same. I know it’s going to be emotional the day of.
Things might have changed and she might have been my wedding – who knows, you can’t predict the future. But I’m still having a super hard time knowing she won’t be there.
Any other brides not have their mom with them the day of? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
@ashnic87: Oh no, sweetie!!! 🙁 Big hugs to you! I’m SO sorry that you are feeling this way, and that you are without your mom for your wedding day. I am sure that she is looking down on you with a warm smile, and looking back fondly on all of the great memories that you two shared!
Post # 4
My mom passed when I was in high school, and my wedding is in 24 days. I have no clue how I will get through the day, so I don’t have any words of advice but would love to hear from others. I really hope I dont bawl the whole time.
Post # 6
@ashnic87: i am sorry you are feeling this. i can’t say that i know what you are going through but trust me, as a mother, i know deep down that your mother wouldn’t miss this for anything because that’s just who mothers are. she may not be there in person but she will be there in spirit, smiling from above. make her proud.
good luck on saturday and enjoy your day.
Post # 7
@ashnic87: So, so, so sorry you’re going through this. 🙁 I can’t imagine the feeling, but I just want you to know that I’m thinking of you! Lean on your Fiance, your family, and your friends. They’ll understand. Remember the wonderful times you shared with your mother, and realize that when she passed, all she had were wonderful memories of you. The bad stuff just floats away.
Post # 8
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. My mother died in 2009 and it has been more than difficult doing any wedding plans without her, I miss her terribly. Try to think of the good memories of her – my mother had Alzheimer’s disease for over 10 years. I remember her when I was a little girl because the last few years of her life were hell for her and my family.
Post # 9
I am so sorry.
I cant imagine how hard this is for you but I know for sure she will be looking down on you that day with love and happiness.
Im not quite sure what to say, but I will pray for you on that day. Have a beautiful wedding and be sure to surround yourself with your loving family the next few days. Hugs.
Post # 10
- Wedding: April 2012 - Chateau Briand
My mom passed away when I was 22. If I’m completely honest the wedding planning itself was much harder without her than the wedding itself. I dreaded going dress shopping without her. Our wedding day was so busy with getting ready and all our guests wanting their moment with the bride & groom, we didn’t have time to think. I incorporated a pendant with my mother’s photo into my bouquet so it was a nice way to remember her on our special day without making it a public affair.