Post # 1
My 17 year old sister passed away in a car accident on March 24th 2008… we were 18 months apart, and she would have been my Maid/Matron of Honor….. and i really kills me that she wont be there on my big day to support me… i want to do something special to feel like she is there for me… i just dont know what…… i will be walking either with my mom or alone down the aisle….. and i wont be having a father/daughter anything… so i was thinking of a mother/daughter something maybe…. bc obviously this past year has been hell for us both…. i just want something to bring me and my mother closer… while holding my sister’s memory.. but not in a sad way…..
i need your helppp!!!!
thanks in advance!!! 🙂
Post # 3
I am so sorry. I can’t even begin to imagine how horrible that must be. Maybe you could carry her favorite flower in your bouquet, light a candle in her memory, put a flower where she would have sat, or carry a photo of her in a locket on your bouquet. You could also list her as your honorary Maid/Matron of Honor in your program.
Post # 4
That broke my heart to read –
I lost one of my closest friends 5 months before my wedding. I had a framed photo of him at the table where he would have sat and had a mention about loved ones that had passed in our programs.
I think it would be really nice if you had a Maid of Honor bouquet in a reserved seat for her with a note that says something like: This bouquet sits in honor and memory of my sister. She will forever be present in our hearts.
Post # 5
I think that Johnsbride09 has some great ideas! Also, your mom walking you down the aisle is also very sweet. Does your sister have a favorite song or poem that your mom can read? You can also put "in loving memory" on the back of your program (this is what we did for our grandparents that are no longer with us).
Best of luck!
Post # 6
Do you have any jewelry of hers that you remember her wearing (a bracelet or locket maybe)? You could either opt to wear it or carry it wrapped around your bouquet so that you will be carrying a piece of her memory throughout the whole day.
Post # 7
i love these ideas!
you ladies never fail me :)))
Post # 8
Maybe you could do something with the table numbers…her favorite movies, things you loved about her, or just pictures of you together. I think that would be sweet and not too sad.
Post # 9
Please let us know how you decide to honor your sister.
Post # 10
I agree with Mrs.Leopard’s idea. My cousin lost her mom 6 months before her wedding. At the wedding there was a bouquet at the place where her mom would have been during the ceremony. It was very touching and acknowledged the fact that there was a very important person missing that day.
She also made a donation to a breast cancer organization in memory of her mom who was a breast cancer survivor. Perhaps there is a charity or organization that your sister supported that you could donate to?
Post # 11
I’m so sorry to hear about your sister. I think it’s a great idea to honor her at your wedding, and everyone has wonderful ideas. It could be really great to incorporate several different ideas, too — maybe wear a piece of her jewelery and make a donation in her honor in lieu of favors? This way you do something to publicly acknowledge your sister for your guests, but also something private that’s just for you and your mom.
You’ll have to let us know what you decide to do. *hugs*
Post # 12
This is so very hard, I’m sorry!
I agree with all other advice given … leave a place for her to sit, light a candle for her, mention her at some point in the ceremony and/or reception. You could make a small collage or put a few of your favorite pictures with her on a table during the cocktail hour.
Good luck with these and come back to us if you need any other support.
Post # 13
This idea doesn’t include your mother, but I lost my father a few years ago and saw something on a web site that I am copying to honor him. He LOVED working on cars so we are ordering little car candies; putting them in a jar next to a picture of him with one of his favorite cars, and a sign saying "Please take a candy in honor of dad". I think it’s sweet without being too sad and a nice way for everyone to see it.
Post # 14
I’m so sorry to hear about your loss..
My father recently passed away. To honor him, I’m wrapping my bouquet with bamboo (his favorite plant) and a ribbon with a locket that will have his picture in it. Maybe take fabric from a favorite piece of clothing to wrap your bouquet in?
I love the idea of having a reserved seat in her honor as well.. I think that would be a very sweet gesture.
Post # 15
I’m so sorry for your loss…I can’t even fathom losing my sister, I don’t know what i would do without her! I love MrsLeopard’s idea, I’m doing something similar. My grandmother passed away last July, so I am going to put a red rose on a reserved chair for her (the only real flower at my whole wedding). Or I may do more than 1….and we’re getting married in the same place she did. Also, I will have pics up of her on her wedding day along with others in my family. And I plan on going to the cemetery after the wedding to put the flower(s) at her grave. Red was her favorite color, and I am also going to have little red buttercup like flowers (don’t know what their called) in mine and the BM’s bouquets.
My grandmother’s sole reason for living this past year was to see me get married, and since she didn’t make it I am going to include her as much as I can.
Post # 16
I lost my mom about 5 years ago and every time I heard this jimmy eat world song I would think about it and of course it would make me cry. So i ended up walking down the isle to this song. I had my dad and sister walk me down and I almosted cried because I missed her so much. We also did a lighting of a candle before we began the ceremony.
Maybe walking down to a song that both you and your sister loved, memorial candle? doing a memory charm and having it on your bo-k?