(Closed) Missing out on the "bridal shop" experience by buying a dress online?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 17
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I bought a dress online (well, two – and am now deciding between them!).  I really didn’t miss the bridal shop experience at all.  That could partly be because my mom and sister live pretty far away and we’re not super girly gushy types anyway.  But really, getting to try on dresses in the comfort of my own home, without the ridiculous prices and the pressure from consultants to purchase, was so so nice.  If you LOVE shopping and having everyone look at you, you might miss it.  I was fine without all that  πŸ™‚

ETA: In terms of trying on different sillouettes, you could definitely still go try dresses on for fun.  Or, order different dresses from somewhere like J Crew or Nordstrom’s and then return them.

Post # 18
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1878 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I bought my dress online, it was less than $200 (And I also have a $20k budget), I tried it on by myself in my apartment and suddenly, this whole wedding feels so real! Everyone I’ve showed it to (have a picture on my phone) loves it, my mother is so excited about it and my fiance refuses to go into my closet now.
I spent a few months looking, I knew what I wanted and what I didn’t want, and kept coming back to this dress. I bought it thinking I could return it if it didn’t fit/ if I hated it, but it’s really the right dress for me.
The best thing about it right now (well, for me anyway) it that I just left it in the package in my closet, since I haven’t had it altered yet. Still have to get a petticoat for it, but that’s not a big problem really.

Something that may be good to know: I am NOT a shopper, so not going into botiques really helped to keep my stress levels down. I especially don’t like the kind of shopping where people wait on you. I don’t think it would have made me very happy to go to several boutiques trying things on over and over.
I am having a very laid-back wedding, so my dress is much more low-key than a typical wedding dress.

I think it might be good to try on dresses in different styles at a botique (like PPs said); or if you really don’t want to be pressured into buying a dress that blows your budget, maybe try on prom dresses in differen silhouettes to get an idea of what looks good on you without feeling the presure to buy?

Post # 19
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

To be honest, my shopping experience sucked royally. I had my cousin my best friend and my mom. My mom was all super excited but my friends were bored, one had her young daughter, the sales lady was pushy. And to top it off I felt fat and sad. Blehh never again. Online all the way for me.

Post # 20
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261 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I bought my dress on etsy. But I also tried on a couple dresses at a bridal shop, and though it was a great experience, it’s really not something to write home about. Sure, they ‘ooh’ and ‘ahh’ over things, and say stuff like, ‘you look SO beautiful in that dress’ and ‘oh, it’s a once in a lifetime experience, splurge!’ but at the end of the day, there’s nothing that beats skyping it out with my mom to show her the dress that I had just picked up from the DHL depot with the shoes that I got to go with it!

‘Feeling bridal’ is all about feeling like, BAM, you are going to get married soon, just like your mom and your grandmom before you, and wow, this is really happening, and you’re going to be with your Fiance forever and ever, and isn’t it awesome!

But to me, it wasn’t at all about having people fawn over me while I was standing on a literal pedestal wearing a white dress in front of a whole bunch of mirrors. Get your bridal salon visits in to get a feel for the dress, but feeling like you’re going to get married will happen, in front of a store associate or not.

Post # 21
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Newbee

You want to make sure the style is flattering and makes you feel like a brideπŸ™‚

Post # 22
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2119 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I went to one shop and after that I decided to order one online. The reason for that was that I had one requirement with my dress – short sleeves (my grandma asked me for that), but the wedding dress consultant kept insisting on sleeveless options. Finally, I realised that it was because they had no cap-sleeved dress on stock. So, I went home – spent lots of time looking at different options and today I’m working from home as UPS will show up with my order sometime during the day! I really hope I love it, if I do – I won’t regret for a second that I didn’t try out more stores!

Post # 23
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I went the consignment route – saved a ton of money and you can have the bridal shop experience.  A lot of people get disappointed by those knock-offs. Buyer beware.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@musician32992: πŸ™‚ For me it’s the question about the “armpit boobs”. I’m thin, but they are always there and I find them insanely ugly. So I had no problem with grandmas request, finding the dress though… not so easy once you don’t want a strapless gown. To make things even more challenging, I wanted a super simple dress with a Scandinavian + 1920’s feel to it. Sigh… that was very DIFFICULT. I ended up with this dress (hopefully, still waiting for UPS!):

 

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Due to a mistake on JCrews side I even managed to get it on a 20% discount! πŸ™‚

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@musician32992: Thanks! My choice of dress is also related to our venue – we’re having the wedding close to the Arctic Circle in Northern Sweden, so pretty much just in the middle of the forest. As gorgeous as your dress is, that would be a complete disaster there. I would get caught on branches and pine needles (and probably a reindeer as well) within 2 seconds. So simple dress it is! πŸ™‚

As for Jasmines, from the threads I’ve read here – people seem very satisfied with their dresses. If you do go ahead and order it, please post a photo once you get it!

Post # 28
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@eraff32:  +1 This is so true!

I bought my dress at a salon, and it certainly wasn’t a “pamering” expereince. The salon I went do didn’t even really do anything for you, we pulled all our own dresses and a friend helped me get into them. We only went there because it was the cloest store (still at 3 hours away) that carried the designer I wanted. 

You can still somewhat have that expereince. I personally couldn’t buy a dress online, but if you can go for it. I’d at least go to a salon to try on dresses first to make sure you find what you like. I definitely wouldn’t have a dress recreated if I never tried it on.

Post # 29
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643 posts
Busy bee

I went to try on dresses for the experience, didnt have a budget in mind when i went so everyone was pretty nice lol. I ended up buying a new dress online in my size for $850 πŸ™‚ i would say look around online, you can find amazing deals !

Post # 30
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523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I buy almost all my outfits online these days, it didn’t bother me to buy my wedding dress online too. I also don’t really welcome other people besides my sister offering opinions on dresses I like, and liking dresses that I don’t. When everyone isn’t in agreement it’s more difficult to feel 100% happy. As nice as it is to have that VOILA moment where everything comes into harmony…I just can’t see everything happening as storybook as that with my family there.  

A chinese knock-off would make me a bit nervous, I bought a brand name dress I knew I liked from another bride on preowned.

I think the only person I denied the thrill of wedding dress shopping was my Mother-In-Law who was the only one that seemed disappointed. But I involved her in the bridesmaid dress shopping so it worked out imo. 

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