Post # 1
I have a dilemma I hope you can help me with. I am 16 days out from the wedding and have to give a final head count to the vendor and create a seating chart. However, after several attempts I still do not have a straight a answer on if my sister and her guest are coming to my wedding. My parents are no help getting an answer either. Do you think I schould move ahead wither her not attending or assume she is attending? If I assume she is attending do I put her at the end of the U-Shaped table so that if she doesnt I dont have two empty chairs at a focal point for pictures or sit her near my parents and risk two empty seats right next to the head table?
Post # 3
I would tell her that you need an answer by this date, and if you don’t hear from her you’ll assume she’s not coming.
If you want to have seats available just in case, I’d put them wherever is easiest for you. If she can’t even be bothered to give you an answer I wouldn’t be too concerned about where she ends up sitting.
Post # 4
Can you tell her if you don’t know by the end of this week then you will assume she is not coming and will not be included in the seating chart? Is there a reason why she can’t rsvp?
But if you can’t get an answer and don’t want more confrontation then I would go with seating her at the end. No offense but she sounds selfish and if that is the case then she could show up and make an ever bigger scene if she doesn’t have a seat.
Post # 5
i think its fine to put her at the end of the table since she hasnt bothered RSVP’ing. its not like she will be alone down there, she will have her guest!
Post # 6
I told her yesterday that i needed an answer by friday or I would have to make the decision on whether to keep 2 seats available or not include her. To which she responded that she didnt care. that I schould do whatever I wanted. Urgh…
Post # 7
Pssshhhh with that behvaior, she’s lucky to still get a seat and a guest. Seriously, just put her at the end, there’s no way she’ll have a leg to stand on if she complains. Is there any benefit to just leaving them off the chart completely vs the very end?
Edit: just saw that you’re also doing a vendor head count. Does it say anywhere that there are extra plates built into the price for surprise guests? I know some bees’ caterers have done that. If so, just leave her off the count. If not, I would include her. Sounds like she’ll probably still show up and expect to eat.
Post # 8
well if it is anyone else i would just assume they are not coming. unfortunetly i am having a hard time because it is my sister we are talking about even though she has made my life a living hell over the last few months. So while i want to say not include her at all I hate to not have an option but then i risk paying for two people who might or might not show
Post # 9
If it were anyone other than your sister, I would say, assume she is not coming and do not include her. Because it is your sister, I understand this is likely not an option so I would seat her at an end (if thats what you’d like). At this point it is completely up to you.
If you do seat her at an end, and she doesn’t come, those place settings can be quickly removed, and no one has to know otherwise.
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Post # 11
I would stick her at the end just in case she does not show up