(Closed) Missing rsvp’s – does that mean they are not attending?!

posted 7 years ago in December 2011
Post # 3
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5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes definitely contact those people.  So many people forget to send them in or just assume you have ESP and know they’re coming.  We had a ton of people not RSVP and after making some calls it turned out most of them were coming.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Today was my deadline too!! I actually don’t need the absolute final count for another month. I did this because I know my friends and family. As of today we’re still missing about 20 RSVPs and we’ve recently had to add family members, they obviously will miss the RSVP deadline since we haven’t even mailed their invitations yet, but yea..long story. 

Based on the few people who have responded to my emails asking where their RSVP is they are coming and just “forgot” to mail the RSVP back or lost it. So I wouldn’t assume it’s a No. 

Post # 5
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1920 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Absoloutely you need to call them. Do not assume anything. You need to know exact numbers for your cateres, for place settings, for favors, basically for everything.

Post # 6
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3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I would give them a little bit of time, some people (myself included) can be a little slow with those things.  If you haven’t heard anything it can’t hurt to try to get in touch with them, but I would assume anyone who hadn’t RSVP’d at a certain point isn’t coming. 

Post # 7
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2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

This makes me feel so much better! My deadline is next Saturda and I’m still missing half the responses. My numbers aren’t due for another three weeks, so at this point I’ll probably have to start making a lot of phone calls.

Post # 8
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Natalieh86: Agreed. A lot of people will see that today is the deadline and drop it in the mail TODAY. So give it 3 or 4 days of postal travel and then get on the phone. By that time, they will either tell you that they sent it x days ago or you can just get their RSVP over the phone and not worry about keeping an eye on the mailbox.

Post # 9
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7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Give ’em a week or so and call them!

Post # 10
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3378 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Definitely get in touch.  I’m in the same boat – my deadline is next Saturday, and I still have around 90 people I haven’t heard from!  Like NDBee said, there are probably quite a few who dropped theirs in the mail yesterday or today.  Give it a couple days, then start calling. (and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you – I’m hoping to not have to call all the people I still haven’t heard from!)

Post # 11
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

My RSVP deadline is December 1st, and I will not order the food from the caterer until December 19th per instruction of our inivitation person, who has helped plann a lot of weddings. So I still have a few more weeks, and my Bridal shower is Saturday. At least with that I know who is comming. 

 

So, I am so really tired. Got a planner for the day of. And that makes me very happy. 

Post # 12
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@yellowshoe: Hey wedding twin …. i am in the same boat we have about 50 invites that have not come back for RSVP . I am struggling here trying to keep my cool since the wedding is so so close now. 32DAYS omg!

Do you have everything done yet? We still obviously have a few weeks. We just finished our wedding favors and now working on the placecards and seating charts for the people we know are already coming.

Happy planning!

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