Post # 1
My deadline RSVP was today. I have a lot missing. I’m getting nervous and sad thinking that many people won’t be able to go. So far, I have 70 yes’s and I invited about 140 people. Should I contact people to find out if they are attending?
Anyone else sad about people that don’t RSVP? And does missing rsvp means not going?
Post # 3
Yes definitely contact those people. So many people forget to send them in or just assume you have ESP and know they’re coming. We had a ton of people not RSVP and after making some calls it turned out most of them were coming.
Post # 4
Today was my deadline too!! I actually don’t need the absolute final count for another month. I did this because I know my friends and family. As of today we’re still missing about 20 RSVPs and we’ve recently had to add family members, they obviously will miss the RSVP deadline since we haven’t even mailed their invitations yet, but yea..long story.
Based on the few people who have responded to my emails asking where their RSVP is they are coming and just “forgot” to mail the RSVP back or lost it. So I wouldn’t assume it’s a No.
Post # 5
Absoloutely you need to call them. Do not assume anything. You need to know exact numbers for your cateres, for place settings, for favors, basically for everything.
Post # 6
I would give them a little bit of time, some people (myself included) can be a little slow with those things. If you haven’t heard anything it can’t hurt to try to get in touch with them, but I would assume anyone who hadn’t RSVP’d at a certain point isn’t coming.
Post # 7
This makes me feel so much better! My deadline is next Saturda and I’m still missing half the responses. My numbers aren’t due for another three weeks, so at this point I’ll probably have to start making a lot of phone calls.
Post # 8
@Natalieh86: Agreed. A lot of people will see that today is the deadline and drop it in the mail TODAY. So give it 3 or 4 days of postal travel and then get on the phone. By that time, they will either tell you that they sent it x days ago or you can just get their RSVP over the phone and not worry about keeping an eye on the mailbox.
Post # 9
Give ’em a week or so and call them!
Post # 10
Definitely get in touch. I’m in the same boat – my deadline is next Saturday, and I still have around 90 people I haven’t heard from! Like NDBee said, there are probably quite a few who dropped theirs in the mail yesterday or today. Give it a couple days, then start calling. (and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you – I’m hoping to not have to call all the people I still haven’t heard from!)
Post # 11
My RSVP deadline is December 1st, and I will not order the food from the caterer until December 19th per instruction of our inivitation person, who has helped plann a lot of weddings. So I still have a few more weeks, and my Bridal shower is Saturday. At least with that I know who is comming.
So, I am so really tired. Got a planner for the day of. And that makes me very happy.
Post # 12
@yellowshoe: Hey wedding twin …. i am in the same boat we have about 50 invites that have not come back for RSVP . I am struggling here trying to keep my cool since the wedding is so so close now. 32DAYS omg!
Do you have everything done yet? We still obviously have a few weeks. We just finished our wedding favors and now working on the placecards and seating charts for the people we know are already coming.