Post # 1
So the RSVP date has come due for my bridal shower and there are a bunch of people that did not RSVP. My mother is throwing the bridal shower and she is unsure if she should call or email the people that have not responded. On the RSVP we gave both a telephone # and an email address to RSVP so that people would be able to RSVP in the way that made them most comfortable (RSVP’ing no on the telephone can be hard).
I personally do not feel that she should have to stalk people out for answer. The invites were sent 6 weeks ago. I know everyone that was invited is aware of the party because my shower consists mostly of family and everyone speaks to everyone.
Post # 3
Is your shower somewhere where you need to know the exact number of people going? Mine was not, we just wanted to get a good idea of how many people so that we would have enough food made. A lot of my RSVP’s came in last minute.
Post # 4
I just recently threw a shower for my friend and I had this problem, no one RSVP’d. It drove me crazy. I called everyone and made sure I got an answer from them. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.
Post # 5
The shower is at a restaurant so my mother is paying per person.
Plus we need to know how many people are coming so that the resturant can supply the appropriate amount of chairs and tables
Post # 6
@TypeABride2013: If you don’t need the head count don’t worry. I’ve never had or been to a shower that needed a definate RSVP
Post # 7
@TypeABride2013: We had the same thing happen for one of my daughter’s showers, and we were furious the day of when people didn’t show or respond. It’s too much trouble to leave a message or make a call, (especially when we made the responses for Regrets Only?) It was also at a restaurant, and we had to pay for them whether they showed or not.
I didn’t call anyone as I never expected them to not come if they didn’t send their regrets. Would your Mom feel embarrassed making the calls?
Post # 8
In your cae with needing a number for the restaurant I would have her call, not e-mail and get their answer.
I just sent out invites to my friends’ shower and no one has RSVP’s yet. If they don’t I will need to all them to get a general idea of how many I can expect. No harm in calling.
Post # 9
Seeing as its paying per person i’d totally call. You don’t want to pay for 10 people who don’t show. Though could you send out an email first? And then call if people don’t reply to that? I think that would also cover the “not wanting to say no over the phone” thing…