(Closed) Missing thank you – when to say something?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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yogahhh:  +1000 I love how after she complains about other bee’s being “snippy” she turns around and does the same thing to someone else. 

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

Thank you cards are nice and all but if she gave you a sincere thank you in person I wouldn’t get too riled up about it. It’s always nice and a good keepsake when you get the little written note but I guess she just dropped the ball on that one. I’m sure she appreciated your help and figured that the in person thanks would suffice.

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 4 months ago by juliaGG.
Post # 33
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Sugar bee

From a guest’s perspective: We attended a wedding last summer. Gave a cash gift (actual cash, not a check) in a nice card. Never received a thank you. This leaves me wondering: “Did the card and $$ get stolen, and they think we never gave them a gift at all? How horrible!” and “Do they feel that the amount of $$ we gave, while generous from our point of view, was cheap/insufficient and therefore didn’t warrant a thank you?” and to be honest either possibility mars my view of the whole situation. I would have much preferred a printed thank you than nothing at all.

Post # 34
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Helper bee

I have anxiety that some people did not receive my thank you cards as I found out a few got lost in the mail (I know I sent them but also know they never received them).  Not sure what happened, but now I’m paranoid that some people are sitting aroudn thinking me and DH are huge a$$holes for not thanking them even though we *think* we did!!! AHH! 

Post # 35
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Blushing bee

Asking about it kind of takes all the meaning out of the ‘thank you’ in my opinion. I’ve heard brides say they appreciate people coming to their wedding, but its ‘not that big a deal’ — rude, but its counterintuitive to stoop to that level. Sadly, let it go. 

Post # 36
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

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julybride93: And…what’s your point? The OP should be irritated if she is not getting the thank you she “wants” aka absolutely deserves after spending so much money to be in a wedding and then still gift on top of it! 

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