Post # 1
I am very recently engaged. I kind of thought that a sparkly ring would activate some dormant wedding planning gene deep inside me that would suddenly make me interested in color schemes, center pieces, diy projects, cute place card holders, etc. This has so far not happened.
I am very excited about dress shopping, and don’t get me wrong, I want a nice wedding. I appreciate beautiful things and have strong reactions to nice aesthetics in the pictures I see here. I just have zero interest in the details. My dream would be to sit down with a planner who had some photos from other weddings, give her an idea of my FIs and my interests, first dates, that kind of thing, and have someone else create something for me.
Am I the only one? Anyone else really want a nice, not too basic wedding but have no idea where to start, and still end up with what they wanted?
Post # 3
We must be related!
Since I didn’t even wanna contact a wedding planner since I don’t want people running detail decisions by me, I just made a really simple wedding-bare bones.
Ill have to let you know in a few months how it works.
Just do whatever works for you! Hire that planner 😉
Post # 4
I think most of us start with the idea of a ‘nice, not too basic wedding’ – I wonder how many actually achieve it. I’ve had so many family members involve themselves in the planning process – i’ve gone down the rabbit hole of wedding planning unfortunately.
If you do want to keep it simple – don’t look at blogs, magazines or craft stores. I think a wedding planner would be great – they will execute your vision and make as many decisions as you empower (and pay them) to make.
Post # 5
I was the same way. It all worked out, but I really had no idea what I was doing. I enjoyed it toward the end, but really wasn’t out to blow a budget and make things uptight or too overplanned. You know, my lack of a planning gene made my wedding perfect. Both of my videographer and photographer told me it was the easiest wedding they had both done because it was so laid back, things ran on time, and everyone was so happy.
Post # 6
Yes. This is me, except that I wanted to scale things down to minimize planning stress. My first pitch was a dinner at an excellent restaurant for ~30 people. My fiance wanted a larger event — it’s turned out to be around 90 guests at the final count — and I didn’t want to take that away from him. (Marriage is a compromise, right?) Unfortunately I am not ok with a mediocre or impersonal/”canned” event. My first choice was simple and minimal work, my second choice is larger, personalized and unfortunately a ton of work, and to be honest a traditional wedding in a reception hall with an annoying dj and rubber chicken was not really an option I could handle.
So, I have been working my tail off. To me, this is a lot better than spending a chunk of money on a wedding I would hate in exchange for convenience.
Post # 8
lol, not everyone has the gene! My BFF totally didnt either. for her wedding gift i hired her a full service event designer. she really wanted their wedding to be “them” but just couldnt wrap her head around the details, colors, menu choices, dresses, who cares about linen colors, etc. it cracked me up because im the opposite.
if you have it in the budget, id hire someone. I have the gene in spades and i still hired someone to make sure all the details were cohesive. it took so much off my plate! it was really nice to not have to worry about things the months leading up to the wedding as well.
Post # 9
I think I’ll go the route of hiring someone. I don’t want things to be bare bones. I want people to walk into the reception and think it’s beautiful and have a wonderful time and feel that it’s not cookie cutter. I just start to look around at planning blogs, website, etc. and everything I see makes me run for the hills.
I’ve been wanting to paint my white bedroom for two years but haven’t made it past the paint aisle at home depot. That’s how limited my design skills are. Just focusing on the dress right now. I love looking at dresses!