(Closed) Missing Wedding Party

posted 6 years ago in Military
Post # 3
Member
873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Wow…I’d be kind of annoyed.  They shouldn’t have commited unless they knew for sure they’d get leave, but I guess sometimes things come up.

Does your state even require witnesses?  Do you need a party?  Maybe you could split the girls on either side?

Post # 4
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805 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ask some male family members to stand in for the groomsmen. I am sure there are people who would love to be asked 🙂 

You can’t have all bridesmaids.

Post # 5
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112 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

First, Starrynight, you cannot be annoyed.  That is the nature of the military.  Leave is never, ever guaranteed and not something you can ask for months in advance.  I’m sure that SJBloom’s fiance knew they were in the military, and you always know that things come up with that which are totally out of your control.  It’s not their fault at all.

 

Sjbloom — what about not having them stand by your side during the ceremony?  Then it isn’t noticable if there are no groomsmen (I’m not sure if ALL yoru groomsmen or out, or just some).  If it’s just some, I don’t think it’s a big deal at all to have uneven numbers.  My fiance is going to ask mostly his Navy friends, and we know that we will be missing more than one likely due to deployments.  Another option is to ask any of your bridesmaids husbands or fiances to help out.  Or, you can also ask any uncles, cousins, brothers, male family friends — then you at least have family up there with you.  It would also be easy to get family to step in at the last minute.  

It will work out! Congrats on your big day!

Post # 6
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873 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@NavyBride2013:  My experience has been different, I guess.  When leave is approved for my husband and brothers, it’s never taken away.  Their commanders know in advance if things are going to come up and just don’t grant it. So yes, I’d be annoyed.  

Also, irish-bride, not sure why you can’t have all bridesmaids?  I’d rather have that than let people think they are second choice for groomsmen, you know?

 

 

Post # 7
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had some of the same – one of our groomsman was PCSing weeks before our wedding and everything got messed up and another was coming back on mid tour for us and both were unable to make it.  My husband ended up with a couple women in uniform and another woman in a nice cocktail dress  – Man or Woman just make sure they are people who have been an important part of your lives.  🙂  

Good luck and Congrats

Post # 8
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241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@NavyBride2013:  I think annoyed was used for disappointed.  Of course with the military you need to be flexable but it is also okay to be upset and sometimes even annoyed.  

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