- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My Mom’s friends have insisted on throwing me a bridal shower. While I think that is a VERY nice offer of them, they sent out the invitations and spelled my name wrong. My best friend emailed me this morning saying that she was upset for me that my name was spelled wrong. I hadn’t seen the invites yet.
This shower has already been causing me a lot of anxiety because ALL of the guests except for my best friend and my Mom live out of town and most of them work on the weekends. So I know that none of my friends or family will be attending. I can imagine 10-12 people being there at the most (Most of those being my Mom’s friends).
Then, on top of that they send out an invitation spelling my name completely wrong in Big Bold Bright Pink Letters. Really? I would think that when you are throwing a party for someone you should take the time to learn their name. To me, that says that they clearly are simply throwing this party for my Mom and not really for me. That is the ultimate sign of not caring.
I guess it just makes me sad because there are so many other people that I always imagined throwing my showers but now that I have gotten older they either are no longer around or have moved far away. I know that they would never have spelled my name wrong. I’ve always been sensitive about people spelling my name wrong because my Grandma taught me that that was the utmost sign of rudeness was to not know someone’s name. I guess it is just so important to me that I feel like they hit me in a sore spot to begin with.
I hope I don’t get any rude responses from this. I know the answer is to “chin up” and just enjoy the shower anyway. It makes me look pathetic. It looks like I didn’t have anyone that knew me well enough to throw a shower. So these people were like “Oh crap! We should do something for that girl. Anybody know her name?…. ANYBODY?” It’s very depressing. I just needed to vent to someone who might understand. Thanks. I know that someone wanting to throw me a shower is better than no shower. I’m just hurt and embarassed.