Post # 1
I have an unusual name, but with it is more commonly male than female. I have been communicating with one of the members of my thesis committee (we’ve never actually met and probably won’t meet until my defense) and he keeps referring to me as “Mr.”
I don’t really mind because it’s not the first time this has happened, but I’m wondering if there’s a tactful way I can let him know that I’m actually female. I just want to avoid any awkward situation at my defense.
Post # 3
Maybe sign you email (I’m assuming email?)
Ms. [you name]”
Post # 4
I agree, just slip it in sometime!
I found out a few months ago that a client rep of mine named Dallas was actually a woman not a man. I pray to god I never called her a him to her directly!
Post # 5
My SO had an even weirder problem.
His name (a male name) can be shortened into a female one.
He was communicating with a committee member and even though he signed off each email with Male Name, she would address every email to Female Name.
After the 3rd email he wrote back: Just to be clear, my name is Male Name and I am a male. His name also needed to be on a ballot so it was pretty important that they got it correct.
She apologised after that but I have to wonder just how daft she must have been to continually read the name incorrectly.
Anyway, I would send an email just politely saying that:
I noticed that you have referred to me as Mr. X in previous emails. I just wanted to clear this up and say that it is actually Ms/Miss.Mrs. X. Didn’t want to give you a rude shock later on!
And then just edit that to how formal you think it needs to be. It might feel a bit awkward but I think that he’ll appreciate you being up front about it and standing up for yourself. Plus it will make him feel less silly to find it out now than later in person.
Post # 6
I have an unusual name which sounds completely feminine when pronounced correctly, however when read incorrectly, it is a male’s name. Anytime anyone makes that mistake via email I just simply let them know. I do it in a polite way like @Everdeen: suggested. My favorite line to use is my name is actually pronounced (xxxx-xxx) I say it phonetically and then stick on a line about how my parents wanted to be different.
But whatever you do don’t let the mistake continue otherwise he’ll take you changed genders (which is fine if you did) but from the gest of your post I think you were always female.