Post # 1
Is it just me or does the lack of tone and facial expression really make things difficult??? so many ways you can read stuff!
I keep taking everything to heart.
Thank god there is only about 6 weeks left! I feel like a crazy bitch!
Post # 3
Of course it’s not just you!
Body language is said to account for up to 93% of the message sent and received.
You only have to read the posts here on the Bee to see examples of misunderstanding with the printed word.
Post # 4
Talking over the internet is really hard…like the PP said, a lot of communication is nonverbal. There can be a lot of misunderstandings…there are misunderstandings even when you’re face to face! Reading things on a computer just makes it more complicated.
Post # 5
I find that one way to avoid miscommunication is to literally type out the reaction you’re having; this works really well if you have a signature face that you make when disgusted or an eye roll or something that he’ll recognize and be able to visualize. For example, when I’m really excited about something, I’ll type “***insert high pitched girly squeal***” and SO knows what that looks like. It’s better than a generic happy face. Also, picture message; take photos of your facial expressions and then attach a brief note. This way, your SO gets to see you and you avoid miscommunication. If you start, he might get the hint and follow your lead.
Post # 6
Do you use Skype? Obviously that doesn’t work at all times, but Fiance and I have just sat on Skype together for hours, doing our homework. Half the time we don’t talk, but if we want to say something we can- just like if we were sitting next to each other doing homework. That way you can see and hear each other 🙂
Post # 7
Not just you! Wedding planning while long distance just bites. I had many meltdowns, the worst of which just a few days before I moved cities. Communication really is better in person. You’re almost there!
Post # 8
Girl you are not alone and certainly not crazy (((hugs))) – non physical conversations and wedding planning sucks! But just think- in a short time you all will be together! 🙂
Post # 9
I agree, try skype video call! Its completely free 🙂
Post # 11
I have been long distance for a year know, I know skype well but you cant use it all the time! I talk on instant messenger most of the time while Fiance is at work.We have a 4 hour long skype “date” every sunday.
Skype really sucks for me as well! It keeps cutting out and messing up!
We are very good at the whole long distance thing and having fun in conversations but I just needed a bit of a moan haha. Our relationship started long distance too so besides 11 weeks out of 52 its all we have ever known! Think I am just on edge because we are almost at the end of it and I am itching to move!
Post # 12
@beebee89: maybe part of the problem is that he’s at work while you’re IMing him. You may be more dialed in and he’s multi-tasking with work and not really reading what you’re writing him. We were LD for 3 years so it does get frustrating. Skype never worked for us because the connection was bad, and after 2.5 years on the phone, we really didn’t like skype. On the phone you can move around, pee, fold clothes, etc, but it seems like on skype you kinda have to be there. can you spend more time on the phone and less on the computer?
Post # 13
@angeebride: Instant messenger isn’t really the problem. We have always done it since october last year. Its just me going a bit mental because its so close to the end I think. Its easy to make a drama out of stuff that would not matter or would not happen in person.
Skype video calls are the easiest part! the only face time we ever get!I haven’t seen him for two months I think I would crack up were it not for skype, a bad programme may it be 😛
I actually use IM on my phone more than I used to. I was still a student for the first 5 months of our LDR so I was on the computer a lot anyway. Now its easier to just use the phone app so I dont have to be tied to my computer. Because we have a 7 hour time difference the only time we can talk is while he is at work.
Post # 14
@inspiredcreations: haha our high pitched girly squeal is “EEEK!” with various amounts of “e”s haha. Funny the relationship vocabulary and stuff you come up with while LDR!!
Post # 15
We run into this problem. I will say one thing and he will think I’m cranky or vice versa. I can’t wait until this wait is over. 7 months!!