Post # 1
So after 4.5 years together (2 of which were in waiting), my SO has bought the ring (he doesn’t know I know). When I very first found out a few weeks ago I was excited and the following weekend we were going on a weekend vacation to a place special to both of us, so I thought for sure he was going to pop the question then. I was wrong. Nuthin happened. This is fine, the vacay was still great. But now we wont have any more weekends etc. for the next 3 months. Every single one is spoken for with work and school stuff, girls’ and guys’ trips, family functions etc.
Here’s my dilemma: I know that the proposal is coming. However, I’m not really excited anymore. I’m actually feeling a little more bitter because the realness of the situation has hit me – I’ll have waited close to 5 years for my SO to realize that I’m special to him. Also, knowing that he has the ring and that there is no possibility of romantic “us time” over the next while has me thinking that the proposal is going to be unromantic and half-assed.
Any advice on how to get over this? Thoughts? Even if you think I’m being a brat, please tell me – I need to hear it.
Post # 3
I’d be pretty excited if I knew he had the ring. I know the anticipation is hard to deal with though. It might be that he is going to wait for a romantic moment, which will mean you have to wait a little longer. Or maybe he will find a moment during these busy few months that still works. I honestly believe that however ‘un-romantic’ the situation might be, once you see that ring and him proposing to you, and the reality of the situation and the emotions hit you, it will feel perfect
Post # 4
Remember, romantic “us time” isn’t just limited to the weekends! It could happen during an unexpected moment during the week that will make it romantic since he’s asking you to be his wife and spend your lives together. That sentiment alone makes almost everything romantic!
Post # 5
Life doesn’t always go according to plans, you never know, one of his guy nights could be a bluff and he could very well propose to you when it’s not your weekends together. Men tend to be more spontaneous than follow their schedules 🙂
Post # 6
he may be waiting for the perfect romantic moment. forget about the proposal and you just might be surprised one day. any place or situation would surely be special and memorable when he asks you to spend the rest of your life with him.
Post # 7
Wow…I could have (and basically DID ) wrote this post a year ago….let me ASSURE you…when he finally does ask you are going to be overwhelmed with so many emotions…..and anger/resentment won’t be one of them. He has the ring…you are in the home stretch! Just relax, and enjoy, and focus on how wonderful it will be to be able to call him your fiance finally!
Post # 8
i think you need to put yrself in his shoes my fiance told me after it took him so long to propose after he got the ring cause he wanted to make it special cause he knows how special the moment is for a girl so take a deep breath be safe in the knowledge that hes gonna do it at some point! trust me once it happens u wont care how it happens best feeling in the world!!!