- Kari 2012
- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
I don’t have anyone to talk to right now and I just wanted to get it out and figured maybe you ladies could voice what you would do if you were in my situation. A little backgound of me and my Fiance are we have always been in a LDR 4.5 years at colleges that were about 10 hours apart and would see eachother about once every 3 months when we had holiday breaks. We now live about a hour apart for the last 1.5 years.
My boss offered me a year position in our companies plant that is a little over 9 hours from where I am now. Immediatly after getting engaged I was at training in the plant for 3 months and it wasn’t too bad being away since I hadn’t gotten used to seeing him basically every weekend like I am now. I will get at least 5k more for the year (this number hasn’t been officially determined but I have some influence in what it will be). The extra money will be helpful in being able to pay for my Fiance to get through college since we aren’t sure how much he will be making as a TA. They will pay for me to move there and back and at least 3 trips to visit family. I can also as for more vacation time this year and can easily get another week. By taking this position for a year when it is over it will be much easier for me to move up in the company and will most likely have a better paying job when I return. Everything sounds good to me except they want me to start mid May but I’m getting married in June. I can negotiate it to begin after my wedding but my fiance has a summer job where I currently live and has 2 more semesters at college. I was really looking forward to living with him.
He seems to think it is kind of a good idea for me to go as far a work goes. He said he prefered if could do this assignment while he is still in grad school and be done when he graduates in May which is how this will work out. If I was single I would do this or even if we weren’t getting married yet but because this is happening after we are married it makes the choice much more difficult.