Post # 1
- Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country
I always kind of got a little sad when I went to weddings and saw an idea or a color or some element that I wanted to have for my own wedding (pre-my own wedding, of course). Everyone strives to be unique, you know? So I scrapped a lot of things that I wanted that already came up at other peoples weddings. Granted, they weren’t necessarily unique things (like I really liked dark champagne dresses for the BMs but went to a wedding that had them so I switched to grey) but it was always disheartening to see things that I thought I would have on our wedding day.
Of course I’m not saying you can’t do things that other people have done in your social circle, but I’m wondering…
What was something you were looking forward to doing in your wedding that you ended up scrapping because you saw it at someone else’s wedding?
Post # 3
Well, nothing really. I sort of shamelessly borrowed ideas from everywhere and then adapted them to what I wanted. Darling Husband and I are funny – we often really love other people’s ideas, but we’re always thinking how we would have changed something in this or that way if we had done it ourselves. So we did a lot of that for the wedding. My mom in particular wanted several things to be JUST LIKE my sister’s wedding – and we did have similar favors – but in different colors, and wrapped differently, and with totally different labels – you get the picture.
Post # 4
my wedding colors. i originally wanted a particular shade of green with brown… but someone already did it so i swtiched to blue and brown instead.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion
I really wanted to wear this amazing red satin heels, but then I went to a wedding where the bride wore red flats. I decided to change the color of my shoes.
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2008 - Vineyard on the Delta
provide a larger variety of diet sodas
Post # 7
I was all pumped to have a massive, over-the-top candy buffet because (believe it or not) nobody in my circle of friends has had one yet! Plus, I’m known for having an extreme sweet tooth, so it would be fitting since I am VERY candy-obsessed. Well, one of my fiance’s guy friends got married a month ago, and he had a candy buffet at his wedding. I didn’t want anybody to think I was trying to one-up them with my candy buffet, so I’ve decided to have a massive, over-the-top cookie buffet instead. I know it’s a small degree of separation, but I feel better about it.
Post # 8
Even if you use ideas from other people, the combination of ideas will be unique. I was a little concerned when I saw pictures from a friend’s wedding almost a year to the date before ours is planned – our wedding date is three days before their first anniversary – and they had very similar things to what we had been talking about. I finally let it go and decided that they weren’t the first to do some of those things too and it made me feel so much better. 🙂
Post # 9
Lol I know what you mean! I keep thinking “grrrrr I’m going to scrap this this and THIS because my wedding is just like everyone elses and it won’t feel unique hrrrrrrn!”
FH just keeps reminding me that it will be unique because it’s OUR day and that makes it unique and special etc. Still I keep adding stuff to make things more unique or taking away stuff that isn’t lol. I totally get what you mean!