Post # 31
my husband is black and i’m latina (but i look white). we both met in college at a primarily white institution. we never were concerned about anything but with the uptick racial issues regarding police and just the racial tension in the country, my husband has gotten way more attentive to safety and stares that we get when we’re out together from the older generation. he attempts to brush it off, but it does concern him when we travel to conservative areas. but in perceived liberal/progressive areas, he is ok and does all the PDA stuff.
We are planning to start TTC and we are somewhat concerned regarding what our children will look like since we’ve read a few stories on the internet about people calling the police on white dad, black children fearing a kidnapping or molestation or something but thats not going to stop us from having kids. But we live in a largely progressive area with various communities of color, so we shall see. hoping for the best.
Post # 32
How exciting for you!!! I had the same concern with my boys from a previous relationship. My two boys are mixed as well but definitely favor their fathers skin tone. So I was concerned about Fiance being out with them without me when we first started dating. I have also read stories like what you described. But we also live in a very progressive community so he’s never had a problem.
Post # 33
Im black and my Boyfriend or Best Friend is italian.
There are a lot of cutural differences, but otherwise, its good!!
Post # 34
I am white and my ex husband is Asian, and yes it was a big problem. An even bigger problem was that his mother is Christian while I grew up in a secular/muslim household. When my ex announced our engagement to his mother, she fell on the floor, kicking and screaming and said that she would commit suicide. Smh. Part of the reason for our divorce was that he would rarely stand up to his mother, preferring not to “make waves.” She would do things like pray outloud for Jesus to help me lose weight (not that it matters, but I wasn’t overweight), just to get at me. I heard that she brought around a bunch of Korean women when we divorced, but he ended up marrying another white girl…
Post # 35
is your EX Korean?
I am an Asian, a traditional Asian, and my SO and his family are extremely white, extremely conservative. But neither my mum nor his parents have any problem with us being together. We are both obedient kids, and parents just want us to be happy!
Post # 36
Yes, Korean-American. I’m glad your families are behaving better!
Post # 37
My case is rare. I honestly prefer my SO not being an Asian. It’s a good thing he is your EX. Asian mums can be very controlling. It’s nothing like American mom level controlling lol. My mum is more laid back, thank God.
Post # 38
Congrats on your engagement. You look beautiful together! Your kids are going to be beautiful!
I am biracial also. My mom is Japanese and my dad is white. My kids are mostly white looking, as my first and soon to be 2nd husband are white. But they identify also with Japanese culture. My partner and I chuckle because our family is a rainbow. We have an Italian bunch, an Irish bunch, Indian folks, Native Americans and my Euro/Japanese clan. My future step daughter is Jewish, while we are Christian. My son is gay. Lol. We have it all. Thankfully, we love and accept each other. If anyone has a problem, I’ve never heard it expressed.
All nice people are welcome in my life and family! Thankfully, a lot of other people feel that way too. Congrats again! 🙂