(Closed) MOB and MIL dress color

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
4036 posts
Honey bee

No rule, but you shouldn’t tell them what to wear, short of something distracting, like fluorescent colors or a wild print.

Post # 3
11461 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Tradition says that the MOB chooses her dress/color first, before the MOG. Other than that, they can pretty much choose what they want to wear, based on their own preferences and the formality/time of day of the wedding. 

Post # 4
1326 posts
Bumble bee

Just tell them what your colours are, then it’s their decision if they want to match or not. 

Post # 5
3727 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

They don’t have to match the wedding colors. My colors were blush and lilac. My mom wore a grey dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a lilac one. Let them wear what they want. 

Post # 6
4100 posts
Honey bee

tccih:  There is no rule and they don’t have to match the wedding decor/colors 🙂 

They should pick out their own dresses in whatever color they like. 

Post # 7
949 posts
Busy bee

Both my mother and my Mother-In-Law are women with great taste, so we let them pick what they wanted to wear. My mum wore a grey lace dress and my Mother-In-Law wore a very nice red dress and they both looked lovely.

Post # 8
47201 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

There is no need for you to tell them what to wear. They are most likely capable of choosing something they like that is flattering to them, and that’s all that counts.

They do not need to match the color palette. It is nice for them to know your palette however, so they don’t pick something that will clash in the pictures.

As a pp has stated, traditionally the MOB chose her dress first then informed the MOG of her choice.

Post # 9
1320 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

tccih:  My mom wore dark blue, and Mother-In-Law wore dark gray/silver. I helped my mom pick her dress (it happened to be one she already had in her closet!). My Mother-In-Law asked me NONSTOP for thoughts on her dress and I never expressed a preference. Just that I knew my mom would be wearing this darker blue color and the bridesmaid were wearing a light blue, so whatever she wanted that she thought would match well but make her feel good. Then she bought her dress and never told me. I found out from another relative that she had it and had to harass her to find out the color so I could pick corsage flower colors. It was really strange hahaha. But to answer your questions, blue and gray look great together! But let your mom pick and then let your Future Mother-In-Law know what the color she chose.

Post # 10
1992 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I gave both my mom and Mother-In-Law guidance on what colors would match the palette for the wedding.  They both asked for it we in advance of me even picking the colors for my wedding.  They were both obnoxiously concerned with not clashing my colors or style.  It was sweet and annoying.  There is no rule, persay.  They just shouldn’t wear white.  Some circles say the MOB chooses 1st and the Mother-In-Law follows. But I’m not sure if people follow this anymore.

ETA: I think silver would be nice with the rest of your color selections.

  • This reply was modified 3 years, 11 months ago by  chaibella.
Post # 11
5154 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Let them wear whatever colors they want. My colors were pink, grey and silver and my Mother-In-Law wore brown and my SM wore black and blue. 

Post # 12
2454 posts
Buzzing bee

I don’t think you get to pick their dress colors. Let them wear whatever you feel comfortable in. You could suggest a color… I guess… but you don’t need to. 

Post # 13
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

Seems like way to much control to me. Who cares in the grand scheme of things? It’s possible that his mom has thought about the kind of dress she would wear to her son’s wedding for years and it’s green or something. I think as adults they should be trusted to dress themselves on their own, unless they ask you for your advice. 

Post # 14
1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

tccih:  Agree with the others, if they ask for your guidance then sure, but otherwise let them choose their own. 

Post # 15
8449 posts
Bumble Beekeeper


They were both obnoxiously concerned with not clashing my colors or style.  It was sweet and annoying.  

I don’t get how this is obnoxious  at all!  Poor ladies, trying to do their  best to fit it with what they thought you wanted even though,  true, there is no actual rule per se.

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