Post # 1
Bees, Forgive me for being naive about this, but are their dresses supposed to be the same color and/or style??? Is the MOB dress supposed to be fancier than MOG dress? Are they supposed to be full length to stand out from the regular guests???? Can I see your pix if you have any??? I’m lost.
Post # 3
@Billsgirl: For ours, MOG is not a dress person and we’re very easy going with this stuff so I actually don’t even know what she’s wearing. My Mom got a really nice dress from the same place I got my dress and she looks so cute lol
I don’t think they have to be similar at all!
Post # 4
I have no idea what either of them are wearing, because it’s not my business. They are adults who can choose their own clothing.
Post # 5
Mine are just picking out their own that fit their own style. My mom is planning to get a darker short dress and Future Mother-In-Law is planning on getting a lighter, long dress. I really don’t think it matters, just whatever they’re comfortable in.
Post # 6
@CarterLove: Oh, okay cool..that seems nice and laid back 🙂 thanks.
@MrsN14: 🙂 Okay, so a long dress wouldn’t be overkill then…thanks.
@HannahGrace: Ouch, okay.
Post # 7
Sorry, I didn’t mean to sound harsh. I just mean that you probably have enough to worry about without worrying about what they are wearing- they’ll do fine! 🙂
Post # 8
The only thing that they should do is match in level of formality. One wearing a fully beaded long dress while the other is in a sort cotton dress? A little off, but maybe perfectly acceptable to you (and them). Most Moms don’t try to really outshine the other.
Post # 9
parents are on the respective sides (if the genes couldnt tell you enough!)
Both moms had pretty formal dresses, my mom’s was floor lenghth, MILs was at just about her calves. Not matching colors, but they made sure not to match the bridesmaids.. but wanted to still coordinate with the wedding color (husband’s vest)
Post # 10
I’ve always heard the dresses should compliment each other in color and length. That does NOT mean the same color and length, but they should look good together.
Obviously, they are adults and will dress as they please.
My mother wanted to know, specifically, what color she should wear, even after I told her to wear what she likes. She really wanted some guidance, so I told her greys, lavenders, beiges, taupes would be fine.
Future Mother-In-Law is waiting until my mother picks out a dress, then she’ll pick hers to compliment [her words, not mine].
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2014 - Gold Hill Gardens
My mom, Future Mother-In-Law and FSMIL are going to be part of the ceremony. They will each be doing a part of it (as will our dads, who will actually be the officiants) – they have each asked me what I would like them to wear. Not matter how much I tell them I would simply like them to be comfortable (we are doing a split ceremony and reception), I have found myself looking online at Macy’s and Nordstrom and sending them links. In general we have a color scheme, so I’ve asked them to be in something that goes with our colors . . . I think that’s what they worry about. They want to go with your wedding vision 🙂
Post # 12
My mother and the MOG are both wearing dresses that are similar in color and in length but different in style. Our colors are navy and turquoise and our moms are wearing navy to compliment our dad’s tuxes, which will be paired with navy vests and ties. The dresses do compliment each other but we just let them pick what they wanted in that specific color.
Post # 13
Both of the moms wore floor length but both very different. They bought what they felt comfortable in.
Post # 14
Oh, the lovely MOB and MOG dresses. We about had a knockdown drag out last week over this. GAHH. I’ll tell you the story and I’ll attach pictures as we go. 🙂 So where I am from, traditionally the MOB picks her dress first and then the MOG picks hers. They usually complement one anothers and complement the colors/feel of the wedding. At our couple’s shower my Future Mother-In-Law told my mom, grandma, and I that she was going to wear light blue. It was perfect because my mom likes more neutral colors. So we went shopping that same weekend to look for my mom and grandma a dress. We found one for my mom and we found one for my grandmother.
This is my mom’s dress
This is my grandmother’s dress. She is plus size and we had the hardest time finding a dress. This was the only one we found and we just knew it was it. She felt so pretty!
I told my Future Mother-In-Law that we found the dresses and she asked me to send her pictures. She said she liked them and that she thought that a light blue dress would look good with those colors.
Fast forward two weeks. Sunday night she showed me the dress she was going to buy online. It was a light blue floor length dress. Wednesday afternoon she sent me a picture of a dress and said she changed her mind and found a new one. I knew she bought it because it is hanging on her closet door.
This is her dress.
It isn’t light blue and it isn’t the dress she showed me. AND it is the same color and style (jacket and all) of my grandma’s dress. I turned in to a mini bridezilla for a moment. I think I was most pissed that she said she was wearing light blue and she had a picture of my grandma’s dress so she knew what it looked like. The only reason my grandma picked before the MOG was because the MOG had already decided on a color. I think Future Mother-In-Law blatantly did it.
So I stepped back and looked at the big picture. Yeah, it was frustraing, but I have better things to worry about than dress colors. They are both wearing the dresses pictured.
Here is the dress FI’s step mom is wearing.
Moral of my story…you can try to be as “traditional” as possible with what people should wear, but sometimes it just doesn’t work out that way. I had to pick my battle and a dress color wasn’t one that I wanted to fight. I would just give them a style (formal/casual/etc) and let them pick from there.
Post # 15
Both moms wore colors and dresses that they felt comfortable with. I did not have anything to do with that, they’re adults and know how to dress. With that said, I thought they both looked absolutely lovely. My mom was in coral, his in light champagne.
Post # 16
- Wedding: November 2013 - old cheese factory
both of my mothers wore dresses in the same color pallet. which was nice since they werent competeing against eachother.