(Closed) MOB dress..

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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165 posts
Blushing bee

The MOB and the MOG are not members of the wedding party. They get to choose what they want to wear- color, length, style, etc.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

Maybe if you give her some freedom in the color of her dress she’ll be less controlling in other areas? Maybe she is hurt that you’ve wrested so much control form her over something that is normally her choice. It’s not required or even that common for the bride to dictate with the mothers wear. Usually it’s more of a veto situation than anything else. I’ve never known a bride to color coordinate the parents to the wedding party. Of course, it’s your wedding and if you want them to match, that is your choice, but it might help with the tension of your situation if you ease up on that.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MyOwnWoman:  I really just want her in a long dress and I want her to look nice.

I think this sounds very reasonable. And it sounds like she finally agreed to the long dress?  I wouldn’t worry about color coordinating the mothers dresses.  I don’t think I have a single picture with the bridesmaids and my mother. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MyOwnWoman:  And I’m sorry to hear about her lack of support, but  try not to let that embarrass you. If anyone notices anything it looks bad on her, not you!  

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It sounds to me like the dress and her support are two separate issues.

For the dress, let her wear what she want.  She is an adult, it is her perogative.

For the support, perhaps you should stop running so much wedding stuff by her.  She can’t shoot it down if you don’t talk about it.  While many mothers revel in planning their daughters’s weddings, others do not, and that’s fine.  Maybe lay off the wedding talk for a while and see how she acts.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MyOwnWoman:  Yeah maybe she’s just not that into wedding, who knows.  Feel free to unload all your wedding talk/questions/concerns here on the bee!

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