(Closed) MoB dress drama

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: What do you think?
    MoB needs to wear a long dress as agreed, like MoG. : (5 votes)
    21 %
    Let MoB get the short dress and MoG will have to deal with it. : (19 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1548 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, I don’t think it matters. They don’t need to match in any way. Let you mother wear the short dress and the MOG can wear the dress she already purchased. 

    Post # 4
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    3942 posts
    Honey bee

    Let them MOB wear a short dress and the MOG wear a long dress. This is one of those details that nobody will notice and its not worth stressing over.

     

    Post # 5
    Member
    1876 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Let them each wear what they want

    Post # 6
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    3152 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    @dreamhazer:  oh lord it does not matter. everyone should wear what they feel confident and comfortable in. no one is going to comparing their dresses at all. no one.

    Post # 7
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    2286 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I personally would prefer that they be the same length, but they don’t have to match exactly as long as the formality is the same. Are both dresses equally cocktail, or equally formal? Maybe one can be made more formal looking with accessories.

    Post # 8
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    9115 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I had no idea they were supposed to compliment one another.

    I just told them to wear whatever they want — is that so bad?

    Post # 9
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    3078 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    They’re adults.  Let them pick their own dresses.  They will likely not even be in any pictures together.  No one will notice or care.

    Post # 10
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    837 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    That would make me really angry. I was VERY clear with my mother that she needed to clear her dress choice with me, because I am VERY type-A and everything had to be perfect. No, maybe nobody would notice, but I would notice, and it’s my wedding, right!?

    I know she is helping you with a big task, but that doesn’t excuse her from discussing things with you. She told you one thing, knew that it was important to you and MOG and then totally did something else. Not very thoughtful, IMO. Explain to her that it’s important that she choose a long dress, and that having it shortened after the wedding is always an option, which gives her a “new” dress to wear again. You really need to stand up to her if it matters to you – which it obviously does or you wouldn’t have posted here!

    Good luck! 

    Post # 11
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    6015 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I really had no idea the MOB was supposed to pick her dress first, or the hem line that both grownup ladies had to follow…. i mean they aren’t BM’s.    I would probably speak with MOG before the weekend to see if she’s going to be upset or not.  If she’s not I’d still have a few words with MOB, she’s playing a game and it’s bs.  She shouldn’t even have been looking at shorter dresses.  I wouldn’t go to battle over this tho, they won’t be in that many pictures together. 

    Post # 13
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    46681 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Normally, I would say let them wear what they want- they are adults. This time though, the MOG made her choice based on what your stepmother said she was going to purchase/wear. My concern is not with or about your stepmother- it’s with the MOG. She may feel uncomfortable or overdressed.

    I would discuss it  on the weekend with consideration of the MOG being foremost in your rationale. Your stepmother could always have her dress shortened after the wedding so she could wear it again. A seamstress can make a nice wrap with the material cut off at the bottom of the dress.

    Post # 15
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    1181 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    It’s fine, they don’t have to wear the same length nor the same colour for that matter.

    Post # 16
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    oh lord.  I feel like I see these sort of posts every other day.  They’re grown women.  let them make their own choices on what to wear.  

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