Post # 47
@MsLabRat: Can they put some kind of material under the bodice so it isn’t so sheer? I know I’ve seen girls get Pnina dresses on SYTTD that have the sheer bodice like that, but they put something under it, and it goes from looking skanky to more classy. I think if the bodice wasn’t so see through it would be a lot more classy. And she can always get a bolero or something to cover her arms. I mean don’t get me wrong..i think its a beautiful dress…on the runway…but i definitely think its not quite appropriate for a wedding.
Post # 48
I would be horrified to show that much skin, and I would be mortified if my mom did…
Post # 49
Well yah, I would be weirded out if my mom wanted to wear a skin baring dress like that. The strapless part wouldn’t bother me, but the sheer midsection is just trashy.
Post # 50
Maybe you should suggest she wear a shawl.. I mean, more power to your Mama if she can wear this type of dress- But just let her know, its your wedding, and you feel like it is a little much, so you want hear to wear a shawl.
Post # 51
I would definitely try to convince her to add panels to the sheer part. The rest I would be able to live with but the fact that they corset is sheer is just way too over the top. I would be a little irked if anyone wore it to my wedding especially my mother.
Post # 52
@MsLabRat: I’m usually the first to defend someone when everyone else on the bee is like you’re overreacting, you suck, chill out, blah blah. I’m really into being entitled to your feelings…and in this instance, I think you’re totally entitled to feel how you want. But I personally don’t really see the sheer part being that big of a deal? If your mom isn’t 5’11,” her torso isn’t 2 feet like this model so the span of sheerness in the bodice won’t be be that big. I think the straplessness looks a bit pinched but if that part looks fine on her, I just don’t think this is some crazy harlot gown everyone’s making it out to be.
Post # 53
@JSP3614: She is wearing a shawl. It is also sheer though so it doesn’t add much in terms of modesty.
Post # 54
I don’t think it’s appropriate to tell any grown adult how to dress. How she looks is a reflection of her, not you.
Post # 55
@MsLabRat: Is your mum confortable in that dress? Does it make her feel beautiful? If the answers are Yes then that is all that matters.
Adults don’t get to dress other adults. If want to control someone elses dressing have a child.
Post # 56
- Wedding: November 2019 - Canada
@MsLabRat: I think it would be OK with the shawl shes planning if she lines the torso. It’s a pretty dress, just a bit too over the top with the sheerness
Post # 57
You should be completely honest with her. Just tell her that you don’t like it and that it is your wedding and you want to be able to look back on all the pictures of the 2 of you and enjoy them and not have an embarrasment from them. You think it is not age appropriate and is not a style fit for a wedding. A sheer corset is still a sheer corset that is meant for undergarments. To me just the thought of her wanting it, makes me think that she has a false sense of self esteem and is looking for male attention that she either is not getting at home or at all, or looking for attention in the wrong way. I agree with most that a colored panel to block it, add sleeves and higher cut. THAT is NOT a mother of the bride dress! Most of those have sleeves and/or jackets. BE HONEST with her NOW.
Post # 58
@MsLabRat: It looks like sexy time clothes…..I vote NOOOO. People would be talking about your mother’s dress as opposed to the bride’s, which is not cool.
Post # 59
I think I also needed to hear this. Thanks guys!
Post # 60
That is hot mess! Seriously, NOT CUTE. She should look classy on your wedding day, not trashy. I would just show her this thread. Perhaps seeing these comments will make it clear to her what your guests will be thinking, and snap her into reality. I wish you the best of luck!
Post # 61
@MsLabRat: Yikes, I wouldn’t have been *allowed* to wear a dress like to prom when I was a kid, let alone think it’s appropriate for a MOB! You’re definitely not overreacting. That being said, I don’t know how you could change her mind. I might try a last ditch effort to talk her into some modesty panels over the nakedness, but unfortunately she’s an adult and can choose her own fashion disaster. =