(Closed) MOB Dress Inappropriate? Am I overreacting?

posted 6 years ago in Family
  • poll: Am I over reacting to this dress?

    No, I would not be happy if my mom wore that to my wedding

    Yes, that dress is lovely and completely appropriate

    Eh, it is a little edgy but mostly elegant, don't make mountains out of molehills

  • Post # 62
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Uh. No.

    Its a pretty dress.  But it is NOT wedding appropriate.   

    Post # 63
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @MsLabRat:  Strapless, too tight, too sheer, and too boobalicious all add up to one big NO for a MOB in her mid-fifties, no matter what shape she’s in. I’m her age, still have a decent shape, and there’s no way I’d wear that dress, especially as the MOB. 

    Post # 64
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2014

    That’s an appropriate dress for a teenager at a prom, but no one at any age should wear that to a wedding IMO. its resllry hard to find flattering MOB dresses where mom still looks sexy and age appropriate. Dresses are either super sexy or really frumpy with the ugly jackets. My mom and I pretty much Made fun of dresses with jackets at every store we went to. (Dresses with jackets should not be worn on anyone under 70). My mom is I’m her mid 50’s as well and its been harder to find her a dress than it was to find me one. Maybe your mom is so happy and thrilled at how she feels in the dress that she’s not seeing how inappropriate it is, maybe as time passes she will rethink her decision. Maybe find some sexy and age appropriate dresses to show her? 

    Post # 65
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    Blushing bee

    I love the dress and I think it’s fine. I guess it depends on your area and social circle if this is okay. If you come from a fashion forward anything goes community than don’t worry about it. If you’re community is a little conservative, I would talk to your mom again. You don’t want people whispering about a trashy looking MOB on your big day!

    Post # 66
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    Busy bee

    @MsLabRat:  my mom is doing the same thing to me. She wanted to wear a lace dress backless way to much for my wedding. I was honest to her about it. NO. I by no means want my mom to look bad. I want her to feel sexy whatever. There is a point though where it’s to much. I love my mom to death but she loves the attention. She wanted to try my wedding dress on. Lol. So i agree with you 100%

    Post # 67
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

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    @j_jaye:  +1

     

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    @MsLabRat:  It’s not to my taste either, but if your mom feels fabulous in wearing something like that, then more power to her!  If it was my mom, I’d say, “I don’t like it but if you still want to wear then it’s up to you… but don’t say I never warned you.”  

    Post # 68
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Is your mom friends with my FMIL?!?!  Seriously, she wants to wear almost this exact dress, but with a mermaid skirt, and in black lace.

    I don’t have any advice as my Fiance telling her the dress was “too formal” caused a giant fight with lots of tears.  I think I’m just going to have to live with it, although I’m really concerned she will feel foolish when everyone side-eyes her.  Frown  We’ve always had a great relationship, so I really don’t want to ruin it over her dress.

    Post # 69
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - NH

    I showed it to my FH and he said NO…that’s a definite NO.  He said everyone would be looking at that…I agree!

    Post # 70
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Can they add fabric behind so that it isnt sheer? And maybe some straps of some type? The dress is pretty, but I agree that it isnt really appropriate. It could be made to be though!

    Post # 71
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’d cover my mom with a blanket if she tried to wear that. No way!

    Post # 72
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    It’s tough for me to say without seeing the dress on your mom.  I want to say it’s inappropriate but I really don’t know.

    Post # 73
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MsLabRat:  

    Oh no.  I would definitely not bite your tongue.  She is going to embarrass herself and you!  Everyone will be gawking.  This seems very mid-life crisis to me :/  I always tell my friends not to let me wear anything made for the twenties and below when I’m in my forties and above.  Nothing is more embarrassing than seeing someone dressed inappropriately for their age or the occasion.  Don’t let her do it to herself.

    Post # 74
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    Blushing bee

    I personally don’t see anything wrong with it, if she feels good in it then more for her and you. I think on the day you really won’t mind, everyone will still look at you since you’re the bride and your dress will be the one everyone cares about. Let her wear what she feels good in I say 🙂 

    Post # 75
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

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    @j_jaye:  Hear hear.

    Is it a good idea for her to wear it? Probably not. I’m guessing I’m close to her age and certainly won’t wear anything like it when my children marry (or any other time).

    But is it your problem? No. She can wear what she wants and if people judge her for it, that’s on her head not yours.

    Post # 76
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

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    @ItWasntMe:  I agree! It looks way too young for her age. I hate that phrase, but there are times it is applicable. It looks like a prom dress to me, and even that would have people’s eye brows raising. 

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