(Closed) MOB Dress Inappropriate? Am I overreacting?

posted 8 years ago in Family
  • poll: Am I over reacting to this dress?

    No, I would not be happy if my mom wore that to my wedding

    Yes, that dress is lovely and completely appropriate

    Eh, it is a little edgy but mostly elegant, don't make mountains out of molehills

  • Post # 77
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I don’t think sheer adn elegant reallygo together. It is a pretty dress, and it would like great on a young woman, but I don’t feel its very age appropriate or wedding appropriate. 

     

    Also, in the photo, the model doesn’t even have a large bust and its ackwardly squished and spilling out of the dress, hopefully your mom won’t have the same problem 

     

    Post # 78
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    730 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Ahhh the see-thru corset – the epitomy of elegance and class.  When will that horrible trend end?

    I hope she changes her mind.

    Post # 79
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Ugh, no. It would only be fine if it was not sheer…

    Post # 80
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    Buzzing bee

    I think the dress is gorgeous. 

    As long as the dress looks good on the MOB and fits properly, it’s appropriate. 

    Post # 81
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    Buzzing bee

    @MsLabRat:  I struggle with sheer bodices, be it on a wedding gown, prom dress or anything that’s supposed to be formal. I think it’s not classy enough for a formal event. The dress would be nice if it wasn’t sheer, I actually like the color and glitters. But the bodice reminds me of lingerie, that’s not supposed to happen for a MOB dress !

    Post # 82
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    Helper bee

    @MsLabRat:  I think people are going way too over the top in their reactions to this dress. Since when did everyone let other people’s style of dress bother them so much? Seriously? You’d be embarassed to see a mom wear this? You’d be horrified? You’d gawk? Loosen up, people, you sound so uptight! (and some of you sound super judge-y, too)

    If you mom really wants to wear it, support her decision! It’s not over the top sexy to me, it’s just regular sexy. If it makes her feel good, and if she’s happy, that’s great. She probably just doesn’t want to look frumpy. If you’re embarassed to stand next to your mom on your wedding day then you need to get a grip, IMO. I see so many threads here about horrible, horrible parents who treat their kids like shit, and all your mom wants to do is wear a sexy dress. Sure, it’s on the unconventional side but who cares! Plus, like a few other posters have said, you can’t “disallow” someone from wearing what they want. Your mom isn’t a child and you don’t get to tell her what to do, even if it’s your wedding. If I were you I’d just let it go and tell your mom that you’re glad she’s happy and is going to feel beautiful!

     

     

    Post # 83
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    Blushing bee

    @Kazza:  +1!!

     

    Also, she didn’t tell you to wear a sexier style of wedding dress, she let you be yourself, so let her wear what SHE wants.

    I honestly don’t understand so many brides who think that just because it is their wedding they get the right to dictate to people – why would you even want to (not aiming that at OP but just in general) 

    Post # 84
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    @MsLabRat:  Nice dress but not an appropriate MOB dress.

    May I ask where she got it?

    Post # 85
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

    I agree that this dress would not be appropriate for *any* wedding guest- sheer, and a bit too much boob. Maybe Mom needs to see this thread. (and By The Way, I *immediately* noticed the sheer panel.)

    Post # 86
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    240 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m not a fan of sheer panels at a wedding, whether it’s on a bride, MOB or anyone else. It would be a prettybdress if it had some lining added. 

    Post # 87
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    It’s a bit over the top for a few reasons, but I’m guessing that any dress she picked probably would be? Some MOBs want to stand out and show off their figures and have a tendency to be inappropriate in dress or attention-seeking outside of the wedding too. I’m guessing she can be a bit like that generally and you were hoping she just wouldn’t do that for your wedding.

    Many MOBs see the wedding as their time to shine (whatever that means to a specific MOB) and ppl won’t blame or judge you for her outfit, so I would just let it go (like most of us have to do when some family member or friend looks or acts inappropriately at weddings). 

    Post # 88
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    Busy bee

    What’s with all the body-policing?  Why does her age play such a big role in whether or not it’s “okay” for her to wear this?  Seriously?  If it looks good on her (which you already said it does) and she’s comfortable in it, then it’s fine.  If people comment, then that’s for her to deal with, not you.

    Post # 89
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Honestly, I’ve found that mothers and mothers-in-law tend to revert to childhood when there’s a wedding involved. And by childhood, I mean throwing fits and being toddler stubborn about some things – dresses that they wear being the absolute worst! I requested only one thing of my Future Mother-In-Law – to please wear a black dress, that could have some pattern or other colored accent, as my mother is wearing a black dress with a small cream panel and nude lace. That’s it. What does she text me that she bought (and also throws in that it’s purchased and cannot be returned – she knew I would HATE it) – a slate grey dress that photographs a nice lavenderish-navy. I literally cried for a good 30 minutes, hollered in my house, cursed her name to my best friend, and then sucked it up. She even suggested that the groomsmen wear charcoal vests and bowties to match HER dress!

    Point being – pick your battles. At the end of the day, she’s going to wear what she wants, and it’s not going to make your wedding day any less special. No one will be paying her all the attention. And I find the more you dig your heels in, the more they dig them in going to opposite direction. I’d go ahead and have your fit (Lord knows I sure did) to your friends and then move on. It’s just not worth the stress….

    Good luck!

    Post # 90
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @Polyphemus:  +1000. Obviously these poeple have never seen Helen Mirren.

    Post # 91
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    Nasty.

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